Dr. Nicole LePera
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Sunday 16 January 2022 22:46:56 GMT
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lyds :
What do I win for having every one of these things with both of my parents?
2022-01-16 23:05:25
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NoelHogan :
Yup this was my life. And it’s crazy because my younger sister had a completely different/ normal experience
2022-01-18 09:06:02
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Jackie Haslam :
Some days I have meltdowns because I feel overwhelmed due to always being in charge. There are some days I need someone to take care of ME.
2022-01-16 23:22:38
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dc_mcclellan :
I think this might be the most traumatizing part of all my traumas 🤦🏼♀️mothering my mom since the early 90’s. I’M EXHAUSTED.
2022-01-16 23:31:20
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Merian.dd :
Helping with household chores is traumatic now?
2022-01-16 23:21:34
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vic :
i didn’t realize this until i was in my 20s and the way she still does this stuff and i also spent most of my adolescence defending her to family
2022-01-16 23:32:09
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user6610182646292 :
Me and my sister 100%
2022-01-16 23:28:05
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Tinabaker :
How do I know what’s a healthy expectation for chores from my kids? I was parentified and I have no idea what’s healthy. But, my kids are all teens
2022-01-16 23:34:12
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Deemyi | Health Educator +Yogi :
Practicing self-love daily and taking up space is helping me recover from this. Much healthier and happier now 🥰
2022-01-17 18:36:06
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Just4today :
Omg. Finding you has been Gods sent. Thank you🙏🏻🦋
2022-01-24 22:24:19
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rmara76 :
Not the dishes! Seriously though I get what you’re talking about but all family members need to pitch in. All else is parentification.
2022-01-16 23:34:11
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Libby Schultz :
Whaaaa? Childhood trauma doing chores? Dishes, dinner taking care of siblings - this is NOT trauma. Makes you less narcissistic.
2022-01-16 23:34:00
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E :
Why did I immediately think about the Duggar kids on 19 Kids and Counting when you were describing this?
2022-01-17 17:09:25
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user3278549042725 :
Chores and helping out w younger siblings is not a traumatic wound to label as parentification so lightly.
2022-01-19 21:54:10
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Canadian Cat Lady :
My entire childhood was being my mother’s counsellor for everything. And I never gave the right answers so I always got in trouble
2022-01-19 11:16:57
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ᴹⁱᶜʰᵉˡˡᵉ :
@ethangolden10
2022-01-19 16:02:19
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vic :
i think life is like “how many traumas can i give you”
2022-01-16 23:32:38
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JPiccolo :
This is me. At 8yrs my dad was arrested, adopted baby sister taken away +mom was crumpled on the floor unable to comprehend what was happening.
2022-01-16 23:26:37
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Tessa Jones :
@dwayneewokjohnson @landonjones061
2022-01-16 23:25:41
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Mads :
I am seeing clients as a counseling intern & SO MANY of them have dealt w this. The codependent effects are lifelong. Thanks for educating!
2022-01-16 23:39:02
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Acvibes98 :
Was a therapist to my parents at the ripe age of 11
2022-01-16 23:24:16
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CA :
People in these comments pearl-clutching: “doing some chores?” “Babysitting a sibling occasionally?” we’re quite obviously never parentified.
2022-01-18 15:39:22
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NICOLE🩵 :
She is referring to parents that neglect and place too many adult responsibilities/emotional issues the child.
2022-01-19 22:21:53
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gretacaroline :
I had to mediate arguments between my parents, help my mother through panic attacks, miss school for her, and squash down my own emotions
2022-01-29 00:00:57
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Kira :
I didn’t realize until I had my own kids that my parents forced me into a parent role. I was forced to babysit and make dinner starting at 12 🥺
2022-01-18 05:00:17
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BlueskyLouise :
Definitely experienced this
2022-01-18 03:07:27
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Erica Perkins :
I had a pretty good break down a few years back. I just screamed, "I need someone to take care of ME! I don't want to be in charge."
2022-01-18 02:46:38
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lauracristina01 :
Nope! It’s something youll feel, itll feel weird being the kid, its a confusing relationship, only those who experience will understand
2022-01-17 23:22:12
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christinamarie1818 :
Household chores. You mean contributing to the tribe ?
2022-01-17 00:45:37
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I Cry A Lot :
@Aryn has some great content on parentification! 🖤
2022-01-17 21:47:48
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49ersforlife74 :
How about taking care of a drunk parent!?
2022-01-16 23:17:19
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Vanessa :
It’s weird to me on how some people are offended on this video. Clearly they do not understand in a deeper level. Thank you for this.
2022-03-09 17:46:30
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Shelly :
I was my mother’s therapist, heard all the sexual/emotional stuff age 8😱and took care of younger siblings……
2022-01-17 08:53:03
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Marley92 :
This damaged my ability to live a full life, I’m a shell b/c both my parents did this.What advice do you have to start healing/breaking patterns.thnx!
2022-01-18 14:52:45
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Lisa :
This is good, what do you do to heal this trauma
2022-01-17 01:53:09
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Hannah Hinson896 :
How does one undo this? Reparent ourselves?
2022-01-17 01:52:52
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Ivonne Reeder :
So true!
2022-01-17 04:23:21
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Shelley :
That’s me 🥺 for both of my parents one has passed on now
2022-01-17 05:37:53
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charlottesophia39 :
Thank you so much for your powerful love spells to get my ex husband bank @Dr Ozojie Spell caster
2022-01-17 08:02:59
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Pina Gonzalez :
That’s me! For both parents 🤦🏻♀️, still taking therapy and it works. Now they have boundaries, and I’m doing better.
2022-01-17 01:46:14
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Laura Martancik :
Household chores and taking care of siblings is not parentification, it’s family contribution.
2022-01-17 10:05:34
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Shauna Fossum :
This happens to my older kids because I’ve been working single for a long time. I’ve also had depression so my kids have taken on a lot.
2022-01-17 10:56:16
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🍋Ann Marie :
I don’t think chores are parentification as long as they are age-appropriate. But everything else is spot on
2022-01-17 12:03:31
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Leslie Tea :
I inderstand this, I also see how some will take it out of content, as an only parent I did rely on the help for care of her sibs now labelled trauma?
2022-01-17 15:28:31
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SeekingHimFindingMe :
Ummm why is it wrong to expect children to do chores?
2022-01-17 15:46:46
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✨KIMMY✨ :
So endured this. 😵💫
2022-01-17 00:48:08
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