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Loulou :
As a highly avoidant person, personally I pull away if I feel like that person will eventually let me down or cause hurt. It’s self protection not
2022-05-01 04:51:37
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chickenparm1030 :
I feel like people like that can’t even meet their own personal needs so when they factor in someone else… they just shut down
2022-04-25 15:26:47
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Sophia Hunny :
Nah they should stop dating and work on themselves. They jump from relationship to relationships thinking they’ll meet the perfect person that won’t..
2022-04-25 15:43:15
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celeriac :
This makes sense. My ex literally told me 'I can't meet your needs' then started pulling away. My needs were having her treat me like she cared 😳
2022-04-25 15:31:59
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Al’an :
Yes, my avoidant instantly tells me I always want more and he can’t handle the pressure and he can’t make me happy and satify me.
2022-04-26 08:10:56
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Devon Effie 🌈 :
Me as an anxious always going for avoidants. Hahahahhaa 😫
2022-04-25 18:32:36
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nikhil_kumar_music :
could you put the captions to the lower half they cover the title
2022-04-25 15:22:32
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RaeChristine :
How do you know if this is the real reason or if they’re just not interested?
2022-04-26 02:12:28
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Self Love Princess 🧸🎀✨ :
Thank you I needed this I didn’t know why they rejected my love I didn’t do anything wrong I didn’t even ask for much this all makes sense to me
2022-04-25 15:52:18
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Acey :
IMO- A lot of highly avoidant people aren't self aware. They need to be made aware or that behavior- 1/2
2022-05-02 21:43:21
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amrlasrf :
I am an avoidant myself and I have never passed the dating stage because of my own insecurity. Now I'm just focused on healing
2022-06-27 19:23:16
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ffmedicse62 :
How do you work with it
2022-04-25 21:28:54
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Katerina :
This is something that came up a lot in my comments on attachment videos and in the reading I’ve done on the topic
2022-04-25 15:09:33
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michelle ☆ :
i tend to be avoidant — i never got my needs met as a child so i’m very independent. so it feels uncomfy when other ppl “need” things from me
2022-05-06 06:13:19
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sage___ :
As an avoider, I think you’ve got it wrong. It does come from a place of not being able to meet someone’s needs but no it’s not an a insecurity.
2022-05-17 19:47:19
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‧₊˚ ⏾. ⋅ :
he told me he didn’t think he had what it takes to make me happy or fulfill my needs but it sucks because i rly thought we would b something :/
2022-04-25 18:53:29
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Holls :
All I asked of her was to want me. I literally said “do you want me?” And it turned into four hours of silence and her says “yes, kinda, but-“
2022-05-08 00:35:48
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Olya Vera :
But are they aware that they’re hurting other person? It’s all about communication. What if you lose something that could’ve been real and beautiful🥹
2022-05-06 20:03:49
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Olivertwistlol :
Why is it that ppl w avoidant attachmnt styles are often treated way harsher than ppl w anxious styles? Genuine q seeing as both aren’t healthy
2022-04-27 22:14:59
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steph 🎗️ :
it’s not intentional with avoidants. everyone demonizes it so much. either work with them as much as they work with you or move on.
2022-09-09 03:04:41
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Nicole | TheLadyPrefers2Save :
Then, stop getting into romantic relationships and work on yourself.
2023-03-05 22:49:10
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Jena Ortega :
how to make her(avoidant) come back
2023-04-22 06:03:09
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Evelina :
There are men who just show up and do “the work”, w/o being asked. They’re surprised we are so simple. They just aren’t Americans 😂👏🏼
2022-07-25 05:43:12
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Shz Panda Ebs :
if they know they cannot meet your needs then why dont they work on meeting your needs and have a happy relationship rather than leaving?
2022-04-25 22:56:20
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Samantha :
You are describing my soon to be ex-husband to a T. I believed in his “potential” too which is why I stayed long after things got tough.
2022-04-25 16:24:18
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leicre22 :
I don’t know that it’s so much insecurity or rejected. I think for me it’s more guilt. Guilt that this person deserves better. Guilt that I can’t
2022-04-26 04:52:22
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Pav Pal :
I admittedly said I raised expectations too quickly and gave too much love to my ex. I realised I was asking for bare the minimum
2022-04-25 15:33:46
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Codependent Dog Mom :
The thing is I know they can but they are afraid of trying. Anyone can sit, listen and try to empathize
2022-04-25 23:17:53
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user208547220929 :
Is this why they tell you you deserve better… bc my ex said this
2022-05-03 03:11:16
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Emerald :
I’m sorry but after two avoidants I can’t date them anymore. I tried my best to make them feel loved and nothing back
2022-05-08 04:36:30
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Katie Ronzio :
Needed to hear this. So hard not to feel like I was asking for too much. Thank you ❤️
2022-04-25 19:34:17
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3valution :
Maybe we got lost in translation, maybe I asked for to much but maybe he’s emotionally avoidant and I’m the masterpiece
2022-05-03 07:38:01
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K :
Like dude I just asked you to talk to me 💀 is that too much?
2022-04-25 17:38:09
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VJ AINEKO :
If you are a supportive partner & they still aren't willing to do the work leave, because it will break you & they'll just move on.
2022-04-27 13:06:16
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maddieloucreative :
They make you a priority and give you themselves early on but then pull away and push/make their friends a priority instead of you after a few months
2022-04-26 08:22:59
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Foolmeonce12 :
But all I’ve ever asked from every person I’ve liked is loyalty & communication. I personally like my space most days 😅
2022-04-25 15:34:26
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Charlie Bravo :
OMG, it's like you're in my life! So timely. I'm in the angry/silent stage while I figure out if I want to settle for unmet needs or not. Thanks 🙏
2022-04-26 03:22:55
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jaybellacito :
Called my ass out. This is why I used to ghost when I was intimidated by someone I was dating.
2022-04-25 15:38:40
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💥 :
Thank you for this, my ex told me the reason why everything happened was because of me and I blame myself. Now it’s make sense.
2022-04-25 21:10:20
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user88240159819 :
i love your account ❤️
2022-04-25 15:32:22
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rosh ༯ :
This is so true
2022-04-26 01:38:09
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Kimothy :
explains perfectly what happened. i just wanted the bare minimum but he got more distant, till i left.
2022-04-26 01:34:52
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dashaaa_emeraldskyy :
He pulled away. I confronted him after multiple times. He told me I was out of his league.
2022-04-25 23:23:52
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Fievel Mousekewitz :
which one of you sent this to my FYP 🫠
2022-04-26 08:07:31
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Nina :
this explains so muchhh! thank you for the super informative video
2022-04-26 01:32:22
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Reem :
You’re so good at what you’re doing, ily <3
2022-04-25 15:48:12
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Raya & the Last Dragon :
This is what he is feeling, because I'm too much for him.
2022-04-26 10:08:38
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Thicc Soup 🦄 :
🥺Thanks 🌺
2022-04-25 15:25:03
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coco :
so they'd rather lose the relationship than address their issues to become better partners?
2022-05-22 16:05:02
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kbb08 :
Wao. That is so powerful
2022-05-03 14:44:58
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ifybinf :
you are so smart can you please make more videos about how to cope with them not being ready for you when you really wanted it to work 🥲
2022-04-28 05:24:18
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C💐 :
how should we assure them that we're here for them?
2022-04-26 01:59:21
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Karina :
i tend to do this and it's annoying asf. i get overwhelmed about my feelings, so i pull away. people feel at fault and i got to reassure them.
2022-04-25 22:48:02
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Erik T. :
learned this one in a hard way
2022-04-29 02:50:01
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jackie :
I’m extremely avoidant and you just helped me realize this about myself
2022-04-30 00:51:53
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aika_santelices :
More like this please!!
2022-04-26 04:37:39
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Maybe: Dianne :
Happened to us. He withdrew me but still I feel compassion for him after knowing our attachments. As an anxious, i shown redflags too.
2022-04-26 06:37:44
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