@kendallbrowncoaching: To the adults who… 🙃 people please 🤐 are scared to speak up for themselves 🫣 afraid of doing something wrong Your frightened inner child who learnt to play small, dull herself down & stay quiet in order to avoid feeling unsafe (being yelled at and getting in trouble)… she needs your attention! ❤️🩹 When you grow up in an environment where you’re constantly on edge knowing your parent/s mood can flick like a switch you LEARN to protect yourself by doing everything in your power to a) minimise the risk of them blowing up and b) stay out of their way if/when they blow up. You people please to keep the peace. You withdraw, stay quiet, play small to not draw attention or be the target of their anger. You begin to believe you are powerless, worthless and small. THEN as an adult you carry these behaviours, beliefs and patterns into your present life… This is the impact of a parent wound & of childhood trauma… something you may not have recognised until now bc it was, for a long time, your “normal”. But think how much different (happier, brighter, more exciting) if you WEREN’T continuing to carry these childhood protection mechanism with you. 🔥 You could speak your truth & stand up for yourself! 🔥 You could take risks without fear of “what will happen if I make a mistake” 🔥 You would no longer feel like a burden & no longer think everything is your fault. 🔥 You would feel more connected and open in your relationships, bc you can trust & feel safe with people again. If you want to heal your parent wounds, join ⚡️The Shadow Worker Mastermind⚡️!! My 6-week group program where you will DO your trauma healing, so you can become your most unapologetic self by setting your inner child free! 📲 DM me “SHADOW” for full details & early bird pricing ! . . . #fyp #healing#healingfromtrauma #shadowwork#shadowworknd #parentwounds #fatherwound #motherwound #innerchildhealing #innerchildwounds #innerchildwork #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing
Kendall
Region: NZ
Thursday 26 January 2023 05:07:22 GMT
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Yasreen Ijaz :
When I’m in the aisle of a grocery store I say I’m sorry to people passing even though I’m not in the way.
2023-01-27 03:54:36
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Donut 🍩 :
My dad screamed at me smacked us etc. I’ve grown up the opposite of a people pleaser.
2023-01-26 12:18:32
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lauragio82 :
🥺🥺🥺 yep it's awful,. now my son (4) apologises for everything because he hears me do it 🤦
2023-01-26 12:52:05
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Lindsay :
My fyp really said “for YOU” today 😂
2023-01-26 18:34:06
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Kate Schleter :
Just remember, they were probably dealing with the same trauma…
2023-01-27 10:41:26
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xiomara :
Well I'm a mom now with crippling anxiety trying to break the cycle. Oh and I'm 35 and I'm scared to drive. 😩🥺
2023-01-26 19:52:19
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Mr D :
I always yelled back
2023-01-27 19:20:25
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sheens2007 :
And always saying sorry for every little thing I think I did wrong 😅
2023-01-27 17:48:34
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Melina Flor837 💕 :
That hit me deep 😳
2023-01-26 18:22:29
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Shadacai :
This is me. but I'm getting better
2023-01-26 06:00:38
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User8675309 :
Orrrrrr I’ve become a person who takes no sh!t from anyone because of how I was treated as a child. Opposite effect on me.
2023-01-27 18:36:32
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Maddy :
That hit me on another level
2023-01-26 19:32:55
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MJTiny :
Not fun lemme tell ya 😂
2023-01-28 22:03:56
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bucket :
it never occurred to me that that's the reason why I'm like this
2023-02-02 06:38:32
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Victoria🌸 :
I haven’t yelled in like 10 years😎 and refuse to be around it
2023-01-27 21:02:48
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Marie :
thank you for asking, I'm currently starting therapy 😅
2023-01-28 09:14:51
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G A B B Y G I L D A :
Me
2023-01-28 06:51:53
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marissalizsalm :
my mom rarely yelled at me but she always yelled at our animals for the smallest things
2023-01-29 05:08:16
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PJ :
Touché.
2023-02-03 02:28:19
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zaee :
🥺 I wanna be better for my kids, I get angry soo easily with them and I'm a people pleaser, I don't want my kids to grow up like me🥺🥺
2023-02-01 10:35:37
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Bree Young11 :
I feel called out 😂
2023-02-01 18:28:24
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Lisa :
actually im the direct opposite🥲
2023-02-03 10:51:05
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TisBeOmega :
I am living with that exact kind of parent as we speak.
2023-01-29 07:51:58
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user6377364480369 :
Being a millennial with boomer parents who nitpicked everything I did to the point where I need reassurance for everything now 🙃
2023-02-04 04:27:40
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