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Doobie :
Pay attention to when this sarcastic cookie reference is made. Is it when they do something small? Or is it when theyve STOPED doing something awful?
2023-03-16 20:30:17
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Ts777 :
Do you think a man who doesn’t provide for his family should be celebrated as not being wounded anymore? I’m trying to understand your videos more
2023-03-16 20:28:01
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lyreta20 :
i get it but as women we are tired. We don't get the praise for our labor. It is exausting to teach men to be decent to us.
2023-03-19 15:24:57
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🐸 :
We’re tired. When we have to say “Good job, I’m so proud of you!” for doing the dishes it’s like parenting an adult kid. 🎃
2023-03-19 23:18:08
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More Lynn please :
Anytime I’ve celebrated my husband for making progress he seems to think “good enough” that’s where he can stop. So it’s been counterproductive
2023-03-18 18:20:16
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Albert R. :
RE Shame: I agree it’s BAD for recovery but I’m convinced it’s one of the most effective tools we have to combat NEW harmful patterns being learnt.
2023-03-16 22:38:29
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Matthew AbdulHaqq :
😂😂😂
2024-11-19 18:10:06
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emelynebaucicaut :
I fear though that that "cookie" would externalize the responsibility. Men may not want to begin or continue the healing if they are being validated.
2023-03-16 20:58:57
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MediocrityIncorporated :
I downloaded tiktok a couple weeks ago and finding your content easily makes it worth it. I'm rethinking a lot about masculinity's place in my life.
2023-03-16 22:33:55
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. :
yes! this is why I don't like people saying 'bare minimum' all the time. we need positive reinforcement!
2023-03-17 21:01:02
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BLGLRealmExplorer :
Recovery from drugs is different from trying to be a better person after abusing women; yes it’s the bare minimum, don’t shame victims, cuz it’s true.
2023-03-17 02:22:27
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RO :
1) I really appreciate you putting this on men to encourage each other on this journey. It’s so important to have positive support. And it’s important
2023-03-20 05:24:15
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Feebee & Ms V :
I love the idea! So long as the cookie is not sex demands or free passes for dehumanizing behavior.
2023-03-17 03:49:26
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🐇🍨🍌 :
I think it's a luxury as a man to celebrate learning how to be a decent human but women have had to put a lot of work in to be celebrated at all /1
2023-03-23 07:02:28
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Namjoons naughty neurons :
If an addict comes to me and tells me proudly that he hasn't beaten his children in a drug infused rage for a week, I'm not sure I'd celebrate that...
2023-03-17 21:32:46
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pizza bangle :
trauma informed support makes sense, but the differences in how society treats addiction vs misogyny are monumental
2023-03-19 12:25:10
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Lo Ziv: sorcerest in da forest :
I couldn't quite articulate why this is nice, but still bothered me, A LOT. Then @verotango made a response and nailed it.
2023-03-18 22:44:02
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Connor :
I think celebrating men for getring out of toxic masculinity is our job as other men, women have the right to be angry and cautious. As well as (1
2023-03-19 15:04:16
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matte_hg :
fuck me, this take is beautiful. thanks for sharing 🖤
2023-03-16 21:28:32
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rosabelizz :
yup. let men celebrate healthy men. leave women alone. we're not responsible
2023-03-19 10:50:34
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Mazie :
I hope men give each other cookies, but community support is found with other addicts so why are we still expecting women to hand out cookies!!
2023-03-20 10:13:03
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thereismossinmybrain :
i thought your hat had a feather
2023-03-18 08:38:06
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lurkermom :
Yes!!! so much this! if you're trying you deserve credit for that and support when that try still needs improvement.
2023-03-16 21:36:49
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morgangoeller :
What a positive, uplifting opinion. You are really taking a risk from both men and women’s judgement with this opinion, bless you.
2023-03-18 03:56:56
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fun.jokez1 :
incredible seeing the dissonance b/t how clear you are w your message and how brain dead the people you’re sympathizing with are in comments
2023-03-16 20:34:21
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lukefromohio :
If I could be candid. While I appreciate the celebrations of others. Oh my god I'd rather quietly heal, being perceived is bad enough. 😅 /half kiddin
2023-03-18 21:45:19
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Mo_jojojo :
Men being celebrated for the bare minimum? No thanks.
2023-03-19 13:04:53
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msbrittany44 :
Part of healing is harmed person (women) sharing their anger. Dr. Harriet Lerner’s work on apologies and 9 essential ingredients is essential here.
2023-03-19 17:38:28
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Willie.nillie :
that is such a great comparison
2023-03-16 21:01:22
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PetBuddy143 🐾🐧 :
would you know of any ADHD friendly male mental health resources? I'm not sure the ones on the website are.
2023-03-21 09:20:40
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Mal :
I think there's a difference between a lack of praise and active shaming. Stop asking women for more labor
2023-03-19 12:23:02
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PeachyChef :
Thank you for advocating for men!!! 🥰
2023-03-17 00:58:14
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t :
great message and spot on! much love, great message
2023-03-16 22:56:40
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kat_ros_ :
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
2023-03-16 22:55:44
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👽 :
True point except men don't usually work on healing those parts
2023-03-18 16:01:22
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Joe Payne :
That’s great man. I’m 4+ years deep myself. Thanks for your content.
2023-03-16 22:48:52
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BearfootForager :
I'm not gonna say it's ironic, but it is interesting that I happen to be baking a sheet of cookies right now
2023-03-18 21:47:36
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skymirrorastrology :
I think a difference is ppl see taking the drug as an individual choice but harmful gender norms is a culture we’re all responsible for/conplicit with
2023-03-18 20:34:58
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ElleThisShell :
Where did men learn these behaviors? Is it society? Our parenting? Adolescence?
2023-03-18 21:36:32
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Autistic Haus accommodation :
exactly. if the cookie has to come from a woman that's just more emotional labour and not deserving of the cookie
2023-03-27 07:25:25
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Bonnie :
hermit mode is where you can hear your emotions echo, don't avoid it, go there solo
2023-03-19 00:43:45
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