@drcassidy: R E S P E C T for the unpaid invisible work of caring for a home and caring for children… I’m re-reading Fair Play by Eve Rodsky right now in preparation for our upcoming Holding Space podcast interview. My husband and I use the card game that accompanies her book quarterly, and it has helped us honor and divide our household tasks in a way that feels good to both of us. It’s not about “winning” in the traditional sense, it’s about rebalancing our roles and reconnecting to each other. We acknowledge that some tasks are more of a daily grind sort of thing (dishes and cooking- he holds those cards right now) and some aren’t visible but bring about a lot of open tabs in your brain (like planning and managing appointments and activities- I hold these cards right now). All are important to recognize and name. 👩🏻‍💻 If you’re relating to this and looking for more support, my CA based group practice supports parents and couples and we have incredible therapists with openings right now! 🎧 I’d also suggest tuning into episode 103 of Holding Space podcast with @diaryofanhonestmom “The Default Parent.” #defaultparent #fairplaylife #invisibleloadofmotherhood #marriage

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schnauzer.mom19
Schnauzer Mom :
Told my husband I was feeling unappreciated. He asked how to show me he appreciates me🙃 I don’t know bud, get creative. I don’t want to plan that too
2023-03-17 03:58:00
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.scapegotte
.ScapegOtte :
My husband asks “is there anything you need me to do” and I thought… I dunno… act like you live here??
2023-03-17 12:22:40
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sapphire878787
sapphire878787 :
And then those of us ADHD women trying to do this while battling executive dysfunction and overstimulation 🥺 I see you mamas ❤️
2023-03-17 14:19:15
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bakingsquared
BakingSquared ✡️ :
I really want this on every man’s fyp
2023-03-17 04:20:01
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katrinahail
Katrina :
And people think I’m heartless cause I don’t want to add a dog to the mix. Just one more live thing to be in charge of
2023-03-17 04:21:22
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aebeer
AE :
Yet they think taking the garbage out twice is all the help we need 😳
2023-03-17 12:16:22
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depeche_toad
Claire :
And dads be like “just don’t worry so much! 🎉”
2023-03-17 13:03:23
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loriguliano
Lori Guliano :
I have an amazing husband, but all of this still defaults to me. I'm sure he does not even think about these things and he is one of the good ones!!!
2023-03-17 03:37:44
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justanothatattooedmotha
sammy 🌼 :
My baby is 6 and he is the first to correct other boys when they say girls can't do something, he says "girls can do it all and more!"
2023-03-17 19:20:25
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ariel_hendrixx
ariel hendrix :
Then you have marriage problems but you’re the only one who will prioritize counseling/childcare to go/ordering the fcking book he won’t even resd
2023-03-21 18:18:49
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opossumsandpeace
Kristen :
And a lot of us work on top of all of this. Struggle is real
2023-03-17 15:36:24
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drulas92
drulas92 :
Apparently I'm good at research so I can pass on what he needs the know. Yet he can spend hours researching his hobby 😒
2023-03-17 18:42:55
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megan.anne.gonz
Megan :
Ladies, if you are having trouble getting your man on board, get the FAIR PLAY audio book, & listen to it LOUDLY when he enters the room. 🫡
2023-03-17 15:04:53
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cpayne811
Cpayne :
Plus working full time
2023-03-17 19:05:36
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daniellethescrealtor
Danielle The SC Realtor :
Nope I divorced that guy 🤷🏼‍♀️
2023-03-17 15:34:14
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missycollins635
missy :
my husband works and that's ALL he does. everything else and I mean everything falls on me.
2023-03-17 19:01:23
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disneyhomeschoolwife
Disneyhomeschoolwife :
No add homeschool a full time and part time job and sleep deprivation 🫠🙃
2023-03-17 03:57:16
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danibobami
Dani Don :
Just spent 5 days in hospital with baby, followed by 5 days of husband out of town, followed by 5 days of husband having COVID. I am a single mom 😅
2023-03-17 18:21:18
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heyitssiarenae
heyitssiarenae :
Got out of this before there were any kids, thank god ! I could see where it was going. 😳
2023-03-17 19:10:28
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julesvp
Jules F :
Add full time job, family get togethers etc
2023-03-17 19:22:37
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lawsbeach
Beach :
Had a huge fight with my husband about mental loads being different, he told me to write a list. So I’ve added THAT to the ongoing list too. URGH.
2023-03-17 21:13:08
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itsalaurathang
Laura :
Thank you so much for a video that perfectly encapsulates it all!
2023-03-17 13:49:02
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empathannie
Annie ✌️☮️ :
I divorced a man that treated me like this. Now I’m married to a man that is complete opposite. There is no excuse for this.
2023-03-17 18:48:32
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jennifer.grudic
jennifer.grudic :
Are we all just going through life with partners who don’t take any of this stuff on?
2023-03-17 15:45:57
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