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Johnny :
"Don't equate your experience with theirs" I do this all the time 😭
2023-05-01 23:28:17
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Letstalklifengames :
As an unmedicated ADHD person, my default for sympathy/empathy is to relate by relaying similar experiences.
2023-05-02 02:01:11
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Stephanie :
been practicing this method for years and it backfires because the other person won’t give you back that same kind of attention & it’s all about them
2023-05-02 11:55:07
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j-rabbi :
this will always be my favorite tedtalk. helped with my social anxiety
2023-05-01 23:39:32
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Angie :
I do this already, but mainly because I don’t like talking about myself.
2023-05-02 02:38:48
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K.V. :
I've been doing this all my life, the downside to this is that you'll forget ur own voice..
2023-05-02 05:14:16
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Mpho :
Being interested and listening to what they are saying is key.
2023-05-02 08:29:19
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Followmywhiterabbit :
Great advice!!!! Always be prepared to be amazed! Love it.
2023-05-01 22:25:05
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Dandelion :
Neurodivergent people relate to others through sharing similar experiences they’ve had and other Audhd people like that! So it’s not a hard rule to me
2023-05-02 21:03:32
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おつ！ :
the equate one is really annoying if it’s something deep. i am constantly telling my friends issues and shes like “yeah me too im just going through
2023-06-13 20:46:31
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E :
Some people don't get why sharing a similar story isn't always a good thing. Some people just want you to listen. It sounds like you are comparing.
2023-05-08 15:35:55
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Coolio :
I feel like this is great except, when do you insert your voice? I tend to ask questions and stay curious in the other person, but then they know
2023-05-03 06:24:35
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SuperCaliProxy :
1/2 I just lost a loved one and most friends or acquaintances are always giving their sympathy by telling me how they lost a love one too.
2023-05-06 14:00:03
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CJ0529 :
By doing exactly what you say not to do I basically ostracized myself at work. I was trying to show that “I get it” and my co-workers turned their
2023-05-08 01:05:54
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dxsx :
Wait a sec, I’ve been doing the “sharing similar stories” to relate to my convo partner all my life, is that bad??? 😭
2023-05-02 10:19:56
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Candidly.Senio :
Best TikTok advice the month
2023-05-06 07:55:12
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Sarah 사라 :
I love to hear a me too… I want someone to share their story … there obvs a difference if you take over when telling the story why do the ones who
2023-05-20 00:22:03
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Macmitchell :
What she is saying doesn’t make sense. When you share thesame similar experiences is when they feel you are present and u understand them
2023-05-02 23:03:17
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kitchenpepa :
let's be open to different communication ways i can't focus if I'm not multitasking or if i don't compare my situation to theirs i can't connect to +
2023-05-02 19:30:42
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savedbythebellll :
I hate this recent notion telling people to stop relating to others through shared stories. It’s what connects us as humans, there’s a right way, sure
2023-05-03 07:19:33
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Khareama :
Wow this is beautifully said
2024-12-22 04:45:05
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Damian Chambers :
great advice. I am guilty of the equating part sometimes
2023-05-03 01:32:20
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Moschino :
Shhh I'll do it my way
2023-06-14 18:13:41
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NanasTravelTips :
AMEN! Had an attendant pump my gas today & I asked her one question. Got her life story & it was GREAT!!
2023-05-01 23:55:49
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