Steph | Attachment Specialist
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Thursday 25 May 2023 00:03:57 GMT
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Siobhan 🍉☭ :
I have a flowchart on my partners wall so he understands this in every situation. I almost never want advice or solutions, just understand how I feel.
2023-05-25 11:00:53
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Wisecracking Blonde :
this is why I always want to know about people's pasts! people respond like they do for a reason and I want to understand why. even if I don't agree.
2023-05-30 17:46:48
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pgelectricmotions :
and what do you do when the validation is taken as vindication of the actions you don't condone?
2023-05-25 21:35:49
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MVHPia Free 🇵🇸 :
This is super important when someone experiences abuse. Support them in what they feel, not what to do about it at first.
2023-06-02 10:05:04
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Ava _ :
Telling people that the emotions they are feeling makes sense has been a game changer for me in providing emotional support. 🥺
2023-06-01 11:14:26
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bigsmalljoys :
intent does not equal impact
2023-06-13 01:15:03
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Nathan :
Can you do an example where the person is accusing you or something that you didn’t do and assigns a negative judgement of you?
2023-06-19 22:16:09
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Ally :
A lot of the times I’ll say something like “omg in front of everyone? He could’ve at least pulled you to the side and had a conversation with you”
2023-06-12 06:14:09
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enjoying the beauty :
many men aren't aware of the need for validation a book could really help bring up the awareness
2023-06-05 18:38:05
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The Mystic Serpent :
Thank you. I feel like I've struggled to find the line between validating and feeling like I'm enabling
2023-05-26 05:56:27
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Hoosier Daddy Cookies :
Why does this concept anger men in particular? I find it fascinating.
2023-06-13 14:26:10
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Ela-G7 🌈🌙 :
PLEASE WRITE A BOOK
2023-06-07 01:13:15
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Steph | Attachment Specialist :
To the folks who find this to feel dishonest
2023-06-21 17:46:56
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Abbey :
Empathy is connecting with the emotion behind the experience, validation is saying their experience makes sense
2023-06-11 22:23:54
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Alexandra :
such an important clarification! I work with people going through difficult situations so empathy without bias is essential.
2023-06-11 09:11:51
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itstaylorwaters :
Validating is saying “I see you” accepting is saying “I agree with you”
2023-06-23 01:24:46
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Hank Jess :
I feel like a lot of men get angry at this because they are often being asked to change their behaviors without any validation despite them not even 1
2023-06-11 15:49:45
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JustAnotherMillenial :
i cant connect with this example. i would want to hear "what a jerk" b/c chewing your employee out in front of everyone is unacceptable behavior.
2023-05-25 20:35:17
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miamibremen :
I can't believe so many people don't understand this. I wonder how those folks do in the empathy department.
2023-08-18 15:19:18
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spretzl :
I wish i had this in german to show my mom…
2023-06-06 16:14:52
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John Puckett :
sounds like an aspect of being empathetic without judgement.
2023-05-25 11:53:20
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Frida Böckman :
Used this with a student recently who wanted to delay his exam cause he didn’t feel like I had reminded him enough to study for it.
2023-06-03 10:57:30
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timbo2401 :
Please expand more on the part that you didn’t join your friend saying, “oh yeah he’s such a jerk!” Why isn’t that validation?
2023-05-25 11:22:51
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Steph142 :
I learned this in my DBT skills class! Which is probably why people don't understand this concept 😅
2023-05-26 17:35:37
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Resilience :
Your rings and nails are absolutely ethereal!! This is so true about validation and so many people don’t understand it, thanks for sharing 💛
2023-06-11 17:49:33
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