@patrickteahanofficial: For those with childhood trauma, their past is living within them and usually, they want nothing to do with it, but there it is. Survivors don't spend time dwelling on or living in abuse. Ironically, we put a lot of energy, if not all, into suppressing and forgetting as best we can. It should be thought of more like the abuse won't let the survivor go, rather than the survivor making a big decision to move on from it. That phrase or idea doesn't work. And survivors don't long for body memories, flashbacks or breakdowns at work. They're just trying to get through their week. Until our past is witnessed, shared, processed and healed, which takes time, money and energy, it will manifest in most of our daily lives. It will pop up in everything, from our thoughts about ourselves in the morning, to how we engage with others. The phrase "You're living in the past." implies choice to which the survivor didn't have in childhood and doesn't have in the present. It also dismisses horrifying things that children go through and then are later blamed for. It's a very shaming phrase, usually said while the survivor is trying to process. Snapping fingers or clicking our heels and telling ourselves that we dismiss or forgive what our family systems did, and we'll be different from now on and stop being affected by the emotional, physical and sexual abuse is bullshit. They would have done so if it worked like that. #victimshaming #childhoodtrauma #innerchilds #toxicfamily #toxicpositivity

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Friday 11 August 2023 12:00:00 GMT