The difference between obligatory effort and truly thoughtful, intentional effort is huge 😞
2023-09-18 16:48:25
569
Stacey 🙃 :
yep! I resented the heartfelt birthday, mother's day, etc cards because all other days I felt unseen and unappreciated
2023-08-16 13:41:47
455
Kare :
if my husband looked me in the eyes and said I love you and I'm grateful for you, I'd collapse on the floor
2024-11-20 13:40:54
0
Zeldenskaos :
yeah, it's the little things. I used to get fussed at for getting small things because I spent money. then we never had enough to do anything for our
2023-08-16 12:48:18
0
Kwik Kash Pawn of Gallatin :
what about a husband who doesn't even do the obligatory holidays cause " you're too hard to buy for"
2023-08-16 23:19:38
15
YarrowLion :
I would take even just a message on my birthday
2023-09-07 17:08:13
0
Marcey :
What if your partner so those things every 5 minutes and it doesn’t feel sincere.
2023-10-03 22:38:36
2
Shawnating :
I've been on a journey of healing from childhood trauma and I spun out of control last night and instead of supporting me my husband said I was crazy.
2023-10-18 02:16:13
12
Ryan :
“Neglect and indifference often do much more damage than outright dislike”
2024-06-06 03:55:49
1
Jennie Belen :
Obligatory anything in a marriage is so hurtful! It needs to come from the heart or I don’t even want it
2023-08-16 23:28:45
12
user31107854935680023 :
Obligatory effort has no meaning to an acts of service love language and my husband just can’t seem to understand that because he is putting in effort
2023-08-16 13:08:59
130
Royler :
Couldn’t be more true. It’s the reason why as a kid I ended up hating my birthday, because that was the only time “love” and kindness were expressed.
2023-09-17 03:43:32
48
Areasha L :
How do I internally change my mind in order to do this?
2023-08-16 13:46:17
4
Katie :
It was the inconsistency that created the mistrust and confusion. Never sure which response I would get. Walking on eggs. The anxiety! Then shutdown😢
2023-08-18 06:42:40
143
Kat :
All of your posts speak to me. It makes me sad how long I’ve lived like this
2023-09-06 00:05:31
8
Chris Paige :
I was there for my ex, every single day. While I felt forgotten nearly every single day. Just because someone shows you they love you, doesn't mean
2023-08-31 06:45:20
4
Girl gang leader :
You had me until the very end.. even if it was unintentional. I think it is somewhat intentional. They can remember everything except their wife.
2023-08-19 01:45:37
68
MsFosterisall :
Please be our marriage counselor
2023-08-16 13:37:14
2
Amanda :
Can you do this but on the effect of constant “small” negative things? Why death by a thousand cuts actually means something?
2023-08-16 13:03:20
102
CK Culture :
My husband makes so much effort in his sole business, says he building momentum, as if it’s an excuse to not prioritise me and our children.
2023-10-04 09:19:53
15
Crow :
This is worded so perfectly I’ve struggled with pinpointing how to communicate this for so long
2023-10-20 17:18:38
9
Steffany Buenaventur :
can you make asking to show me how I can get through my spouse that I need more and that he's a spouse and a father. we use to do things together then I became a stay at home mom and he stopped
2023-12-31 19:34:59
0
mydesiredlife :
preach it Jimmy!! Thank you for teaching us!!
2023-08-16 16:17:00
2
To see more videos from user @jimmyonrelationships, please go to the Tikwm
homepage.