@missclairebenjamin: 🚨 Handing the GASLIGHTER👇 🧠 Before I dive into this I wanted to firstly clarify what gaslighting is as it has become quite a widely used term. Gaslighting is when someone denies your reality AND then turns it around onto you to make you doubt yourself. So in the example shown in this video, the gaslighter has denied what they did in the meeting (so they’re lying) and then they turn it onto the person saying they misinterpret things and they’re overreacting. This is a form of manipulation used to gain power and control 😳 🚨 Gaslighting is NOT someone disagreeing with you or remembering something differently to you. 💡 When someone gaslights you your automatic response will likely be to defend yourself, argue your position and respond emotionally. OR you might start doubting yourself. These reactions are exactly what a gaslighter wants as they will see this as gaining power and control. 🔥 The skill is to spot when you’re being gaslighted and learn to control the urge to fight back. Do the OPPOSITE of what you automatically want to do. Respond calmly, don’t react and don’t bite the bait. As shown in the second half if this video. 💡Gaslighters will not validate your reality and you don’t need them to. I would recommend distancing yourself as much as you can from people like this. They will get bored when they see they can’t manipulate you. 📌 Please remember the advice offered in this video is generalised. You know your situation better than anyone else so trust your instincts, if this doesn’t fit your situation ignore it. You’ve got this 💪 🚀 Follow for more tips on handling people problems at work #worktips #leadershipdevelopment #managingpeople #communicationskills #corporatelife #difficultpeople #assertivecommunication #difficultconversations #gaslighting

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user963257994215
user963257994215 :
“If you check the minutes… that you wrote….” 😂
2023-09-11 19:42:58
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cilmaen
Brian :
Management will then close ranks and they'll start gathering intelligence to dismiss you covertly.
2023-09-12 12:21:48
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donnagrey0
Donna Grey :
Can you do the super critical manager? No matter what you deliver there will always be something wrong. The goalposts keep changing.
2023-09-11 20:23:48
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urnewgurlbestie
UrNewGurlBestie :
I’ve resulted to recording every call and manager still argues semantics .. I literally have to say we remember things differently
2023-09-11 19:45:07
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rasputinthorpedo
rasputinthorpedo :
Can you do a video on being excluded in the work place by a boss or team that’s a clique
2023-09-11 19:29:07
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npc041188
NPC041188 :
leave a paper trail & record every meeting. mild paranoia has saved my job more than once.
2023-09-12 14:56:02
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bmoreab
Andieeeeee :
Have you been in my meetings????? My boss talks like this
2023-09-11 20:09:28
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titanheaux
titanheaux :
Gaslighters are not reasonable. Put everything in writing & hit them with those receipts. They hate that.
2023-09-12 11:00:32
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sarahjane002
Sarahjane002 :
THANK YOU! I have been struggling with reacting and taking it personal when my supervisor blatantly denies her actions.
2023-09-11 23:05:41
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heidii792
Heidi :
This is very triggering, especially when you have leaders gaslighting you in a weekly basis.
2023-09-12 05:38:05
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bricktop422
bricktop422 :
I used to say ‘no worries I’ll copy our MD in and we can make sure you get them 😂
2023-09-11 20:08:12
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cowpatty53
Cow patty :
This is why I always keep my emails or screen shot conversations
2023-10-06 05:23:56
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tanyaj47
Tanya :
One change that I'd make here: I wouldn't give her the heads up about sending the stats to the entire team, I'd just do it.
2023-09-14 22:36:03
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purpleduvet1
Harriett 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 :
Few months ago I said I remember things differently and my boss then accused me of gaslighting. Thankfully colleague knew I was being truthful.
2023-09-12 08:43:18
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ladyahiru
Jules 🇦🇹 :
Thank god all meetings are recorded
2023-09-12 13:29:23
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kirikirixyz
kiri 🍓 :
If someone gaslit me at work I'd be going straight to their manager lol
2023-09-12 07:49:23
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siobhanrhodes0
Vorn :
literally just resign (i can't do conflict)
2023-09-12 21:44:48
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jhart07
Jonnsi :
People would perform much more effectively without the stress of weekly stats, KPIs etc.
2023-09-12 00:22:20
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donnagrey0
Donna Grey :
So triggered 😤
2023-09-11 20:22:12
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hananmoody
hanansalem :
need these tips for my ex😏🥰
2023-09-12 10:20:00
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cherryblossomg_
Sakura Mucca :
My life right now 😐
2023-09-12 13:53:33
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stephaniejablons9
stephaniejablons9 :
gaslighters hate when you frame it that way but it works 👌
2023-09-11 21:16:16
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mxsslve
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Dude all I saw was hands
2023-09-13 07:18:24
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salty.chess
brandee&biscuits :
I hate being professional when all you want to do is send the email that they didn't get to EVERYONE in the meeting..
2023-09-13 13:18:11
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aufajohan
AJ :
I have a colleague like this and nit pick on every little thing. I just reply her with “Okay” and a smile. She can’t argue anymore 😂
2023-09-13 11:21:16
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