@bigsiscasey: i made so many decisions based on the anticipated reactions of my parents because when i did what they wanted, things were easier #healingjourney🧡 #trauma #mentalhealthtok #childhoodtrauma #controllingparents
although i ended up keeping out of a lot of trouble, it was mentally exhausting walking on egg shells around their feelings
2023-11-19 00:57:14
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lyd :
I can’t make decisions anymore
2023-10-08 04:26:48
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ash :
my therapist suggested exploring the (healthy) things i wanted to do as a kid but didn’t bc of this and it’s been so healing
2023-10-08 05:40:03
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claire_7777 :
It’s so difficult bc you also mourn those years of captivity to your own mind
2023-10-09 08:37:29
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Molly :
I will never, NEVER! Let anyone ever have that much control over me again.
2023-10-08 04:48:02
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Brits && Brats 🧸🎀 :
My page really said “FOR YOU”
2023-10-08 04:36:43
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ramseyadams4 :
I’m 26 and this past year I’ve realized this has been my life until recently.
2023-10-09 00:21:40
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maegan519 :
It’s because I was always in trouble for things that you shouldn’t be in trouble for. I still have to remind my mother I am 37 years old and can make
2023-10-08 21:42:37
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Chalant dreadhead :
And when you start living without tip toeing around their feelings and reactions the guilt is out of this world 🙂
2023-10-09 04:19:47
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_baileymcc :
Then they have the audacity to say you’re ungrateful once you start living for yourself
2023-10-09 22:53:29
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Janie Scorpio :
It takes work to be authentic, it doesn’t come naturally for me. My default is people pleaser & it’s hard to change 😭
2023-10-08 12:45:59
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TheMaleja 🍉 :
I talk to my therapist a lot about this, how their voices are always in the back on my head with every step I take, seriously exhausting
2023-11-21 02:07:31
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B :
Caring so much about what they think while getting told I don’t care about their feelings when that’s all i ever did
2023-10-09 16:24:38
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suganilla :
I’ve never heard anyone else word it exactly like this. I’ve been saying this for years and have felt so lost. I’m 36, dude.
2023-10-08 05:24:04
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Time Diviner :
Ooof realizing that most of my life was made to avoid punishment was a real wake-up call for me. Especially in an emotionally abusive relationship
2023-10-08 15:15:55
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Lily Lopez :
as an only child this is it lol
2023-11-21 20:15:49
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Garfield’s Lasagna :
For YEARS my internalized voice sounded just like my mother. Really hard to figure out what my own inner voice sounded like!
2023-10-09 20:13:36
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[R] 🏳️🌈 :
My whole life-I grieve for those lost years. I felt like I was watching everyone else grow while I was being held back.
2023-10-08 12:37:09
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UnblessedTees :
I finally broke this dysfunction when I was 25 & left the state, lived my life for the first time, & it was the best thing I’ve ever done.
2023-10-08 14:57:22
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Sami | creativity + motherhood :
I’ve been searching for why I’m such an anxious people pleaser even though I had a beautiful childhood… but it’s exactly THIS!!!! THIS IS WHY!
2023-11-21 21:00:41
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Jetex._. :
hoy amanecimos muy personales, pero aparte de darnos cuenta de que no sabemos lo que queremos, que podemos hacer al respecto si sentimos que perdimos mucho tiempo sin saber qué hacer por decisión+
2023-12-20 11:12:35
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jesi✨ :
this is me & now I try hard not to be a people pleaser as I figure out who I am
2023-10-08 04:26:39
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user4757107827190 :
When I graduated from HS, all my friends went off to college...but my mom said I wasn't smart enough for post secondary education. I went back at 42.
2023-11-21 00:26:59
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