@patrickteahanofficial: For many childhood trauma survivors, we carry shame about what our families were like.⁠ ⁠ Examples⁠:⁠ ⁠ -chaotic, dysfunctional families that a neighbor would dislike (public shame)⁠ ⁠ -alcoholic or substance use of the parents (public shame)⁠ ⁠ -extreme rigidity such as religious fundamentalism (public shame)⁠ ⁠ -assimilation issues such as having immigrant parents where a part of the abuse is growing up in two cultures (pressure and public shame)⁠ ⁠ -parents who are duplicitous, charming, or icky in public and nasty in private (public shame)⁠ ⁠ -families that have secrets or don't address big issues, such as a family member⁠ struggling with a mental or physical condition (public shame)⁠ ⁠ Many survivors had to run coverage of these issues, such as not wanting a ride from a friend's mother from school because they didn't want them to see their visibly unkempt house because they were growing up with drug-addicted or alcoholic parents.⁠ ⁠ The child takes on the shame created by dysfunctional parents, and it becomes a part of them, as if they were an accomplice in the dysfunction. Survivors can spend their whole lives trying to hide this.⁠ ⁠ If you resonate with this idea around shame, your inner child might need help separating that they wouldn't have chosen all that, weren't responsible for what the family was like, and their parent's decisions created all the ick. The child was just caught up in it.⁠ ⁠ Children need help to hate their situation versus hating themselves, which is what they'll do to survive.⁠ ⁠ Check out the Monthly Healing Community - LINK IN BIO #childhoodtraumacheck #innerchild #shame #toxicfamily

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Thursday 02 November 2023 11:00:00 GMT