🫣 NEVER SAY NO.1 See below for what to say instead ⬇️ • “People will forget what you said…but will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelo. This quote rings true when you are trying to support someone who is struggling. Focus less on getting the exact words right, and more on how you are trying to make them feel. • Aim to make them feel safe, secure, respected, and listened to, really listened to. • Park any judgement that arises and turn your mind to curiosity. Seek only to understand. • Ask about when things feel better, when they feel worse, what helps, and what makes it more difficult. As you build a detailed picture of what it is like for them, they will also benefit from the insight gained by reflecting on it in this way. • Ask them how you can best support them. Take the guessing game out of it. Many people already have a clear idea of what would help them. It can be as simple as consistently showing up to be a friend. • Remember, you are not here to solve all their problems. Don’t underestimate the power of simply being there and showing you care. • You can help in practical ways, like babysitting while they attend therapy appointments or joining them to go out for a walk every day. Try to support them in things that will steer toward recovery. 👉More on this in my international bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 🇮🇳 🇨🇳 🇨🇦 🇦🇺 🇦🇱 🇧🇷 🇧🇬 🇭🇷 🇨🇿 🇩🇰 🇪🇪 🇫🇮 🇫🇷 🇩🇪 🇬🇷 🇭🇺 🇮🇸 🇮🇩 🇮🇱 🇮🇹 🇯🇵 🇱🇻 🇱🇹 🇲🇰 🇳🇱 🇳🇴 🇵🇱 🇵🇹 🇷🇴 🇷🇺 🇷🇸 🇸🇰 🇸🇮 🇰🇷 🇪🇸 🇸🇪 🇹🇼 🇹🇭 🇹🇷 🇺🇦 🇻🇳 - @drjulie