@beyondcodependency: so much began to change when I started learning that being human, and relating outside of codependency, doesn't look like the ultra calm, always soothed version of existing. it actually looks like being seen in my frustration, in my pain, in my mirth and merriness, and then staying with the tension of being perceived and reacted to. #relationshipadvice #codependent #codependency #peoplepleaser #healingrelationships