@jbirdfit: IYKYK…. Before you ask the avoidant….again. Ask yourself, why am I asking this? What am I feeling right now? Why am I feeling this way? Is there anything I can do right now to feel better? What answer do you expect? Do you really think they have been cheating or are you in seek and destroy mode searching for anything they have done wrong to explain your feelings? These are all big questions and no one is blaming you. This is an awareness that your “I knew it’s” can be a barrier to connection. Check out the latest podcast episode with @mc.phd where we discuss disorganized attachment and trauma bonds. Link in my bio! #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #datingmemes