@relationshipswithaly: 3 things to say when all you want to say is F YOU 1. Option 1: Take a break. “I’m too mad right now to keep talking. I’m calling time out and walking away for 10 minutes.“ Science shows that your nervous system needs 20 minutes to fully re-regulate after you’re emotionally flooded. Get on board with allowing each other to take breaks. Create a “time-out plan” that you both agree on so that arguments never reach a boiling point. 2. Option 2: Name the sensations & remind yourself they will pass. “I feel like I’m about to curse you out. I feel my blood boiling. I know I won’t feel like this forever.“ Naming what is physically happening is a grounding exercise. Saying the words aloud helps your brain remember that this is not a life or death situation, that these feelings will pass, and that you don’t have to act on a “feeling”. 3. Option 3: Don’t say anything. “ Go get a pillow and scream into it, go get a piece of paper and scribble all over it. These seem silly but they actually WORK to release that anger in a way that does less damage to your partnership. Get in the habit of releasing your frustrations through more creative means than through people. For how to repair if you do end up cussing out your partner, subscribe in my profile! It’s only $1 a month :) Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This will not apply to everyone. #depression #anxiety #anxious #communnication #relationships #relationshipadvice #communication #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #couplestherapy #couple #dating #marriage #marriageadvice #mft #Love #romance #MentalHealth #wellness #problemsolving #gottman #negotiation #conflictresolution #conflict
