@missclairebenjamin: 🚨Handling the “gossip”👇 🧠 When someone has been gossiping about us behind our back it is the worst feeling. This can lead us to react and go in all guns blazing, and in doing so lower ourselves to their level. ▶️ Now I totally get that it’s very counterintuitive but stay with me on this one… if we match their energy we almost guarantee they won’t listen and may even talk more about us. ✅ Instead I would recommend reminding yourself of a phrase I love by Michelle Obama “when they go low we go high”. Which means approaching it in the opposite way to how they’re behaving: 1️⃣ Be calm and respectful (we don’t need to disrespect others because they’ve disrespected us- let’s not give them this power) 2️⃣ Share what you know factually, the impact (e.g. “I’ve been upset about it” or “it’s been impacting my mental health”) and ask them where it’s coming from 3️⃣ Don’t react and remain confident in yourself 4️⃣ Avoid making demands or threats instead make requests for example “please can you refrain from talking about me and come to me directly if there’s something on your mind?” 🔥 Human beings are way way more likely to do something we ask when it’s phrased as a request not a demand or threat. If the gossiping persists you can then have a much firmer conversation 📌 Please remember the advice offered in this video is generalised. You know your situation better than anyone else so trust your instincts, if this doesn’t fit your situation ignore it. You’ve got this 💪 #worktips #leadershipdevelopment #communicationskills #corporatelife #emotionalintelligence #managingpeople #difficultconversations #difficultpeople #gossip #conflict

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heismyapollo
myapollo :
I feel like it's better to just plot their downfall in secret
2023-12-19 19:59:53
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moonyclipse
Melissa 🌗 :
they won’t stop..
2023-12-20 18:20:30
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platinum_kin
platinum_kin :
Best to ignore and let your work speak for you
2023-12-20 09:44:18
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chykibryak
Chykibryak :
As if they wouldn't gossip about this situation later🤣
2023-12-20 07:03:28
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imsarahann
Heyitssarah :
I keep the knowledge and use it 😂 I now can’t trust that person that’s it. Not bothered what they say!
2023-12-19 22:13:06
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thun.der_
Thunder :
Or ignore it don’t give them power and energy
2023-12-20 05:19:44
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sugarthehen
hehdhekoppf :
Act oblivious and be extra kind to them - create a split in opinion 😆
2023-12-20 15:29:20
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thesnukz
Danni and Dre :
I usually just ignore it since a lot of times it’s met with gaslighting. Like “how dare you get upset about me talking about you behind your back!” 😂
2023-12-20 10:47:35
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riverearthforest
RiverForestAir :
Take the ‘let them’ approach.
2023-12-20 14:54:11
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8181_7
__ :
Both of these scenarios will cause tension, the second is just passively aggressive…
2023-12-20 11:19:04
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unhingedbandito
unhingedbandito :
I actually think it’s funny when people gossip about me. I kind I feel famous 😝
2023-12-21 08:57:59
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kdbrown9
kdbrown9 :
What other people say about you says more about them than it says about you.
2023-12-20 02:05:19
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aedynjak
AedynJak :
or go radio silent and then allow paranoia to take over
2023-12-20 03:50:33
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madhuhoney710
Maddy :
There is no cure for gossips! The best way is to be really good at your job and let your success speak!! 🥰
2023-12-20 19:56:18
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azrooc
Lydz :
Your look at the end is gold. 😆
2023-12-19 19:40:09
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chelseaaranui
Chelsea Aranui :
I'd probably try and remember the second scenario but probably go straight to the first scenario 😂😂
2023-12-20 09:45:28
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net_fantasii11
net_fantasii :
a gossiper be like "ok, i definitely won't do it over again and i'll speak to you directly"😂
2023-12-20 10:22:31
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maidenofthesouth
Kez :
Put Laxitives in there Lattes. not in, no Gossip. it's harder to ignore when you delt with it for 18 months. I left my Job because of this.
2023-12-20 06:48:10
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melvinagaye_
𝓜𝓮𝓵 :
I always ignore cuz people are liars i’d rather just not let them know i know
2024-02-20 04:18:20
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anjaandersen44
Anja Andersen :
What should you do if a group at work are telling lies about you because you make the best results
2023-12-20 22:50:06
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agnese.sneidere
Nessy :
You can’t do either of them now because someone is bound to get offended 🤭
2023-12-21 08:52:23
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jena0212
jkusnirik :
i would give them more things to talk about me,they are bored in their life,thats why they need to talk about anyone else👍
2023-12-21 10:05:05
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chloe_x4453
chloe_x4453 :
don’t bother telling them to stop cos they’ll just do it more lmao
2023-12-21 09:41:30
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totallybundastyll
beth :
no thank you i prefer a kick off
2023-12-20 19:08:18
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