@missclairebenjamin: 🚨 Handling the narcissist 👇 🧠 Firstly this video is intended to highlight how to deal with someone who presents with narcissist traits- we can never truly know if someone has narcissistic personality disorder as this is a clinical diagnosis and often isn’t diagnosed. Here are some of the traits of a narcissist. These traits alone don’t make someone a narcissist it’s the combination of them (This is also not an exhaustive list): ▶️ An inflated sense of self and their own importance (e.g smashed it, I’m gonna get the promotion) ▶️ Belittle people to exert power (e.g call people names like Claire Bear) ▶️ Very charming (unfortunately 🤬) ▶️ When pulled up on their behaviour they: 1️⃣ Deny/ lie (e.g saying it’s their work when they stole yours) 2️⃣ Gaslight you (e.g. deny your reality/ the truth and then say you’re overreacting) 3️⃣ Play the victim (e.g. “why are you always trying to put me down”) 4️⃣ Deflect (e.g. say you’re the manipulative one when they are) 💡 When we find ourselves interacting with someone like this it can be very destabilising. It feels so counterintuitive but it’s so important to try and remain calm, and not bite their bait by starting to argue or defend. Being calm and assertive will keep you in control of the conversation. 🔥 I’d recommend keeping interactions to a minimum and when you do interact with them try to have other people around. 🚫 Narcissists do not like to be exposed so I DO NOT recommend going into battle with them. Sadly you will never win. The best way to win is to disengage, pick your battles and keep a distance as much as you can. 📌 Please remember the advice offered in this video is generalised. You know your situation better than anyone else so trust your instincts, if this doesn’t fit your situation ignore it. #worktips #leadershipdevelopment #communicationskills #corporatelife #emotionalintelligence #managertips #difficultpeople #assertivecommunication #narcissist #gaslighting
They would go to the meeting saying they want to present “our work” as it would be a team effort, even though they did nothing
2023-12-22 16:17:14
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jurgensbeard :
You have kicked the can down the road and not resolved anything. Why would a narcissist engage positively in the second meeting?
2023-12-27 20:22:50
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dee_nice0618 :
Grat rock and keep calm, they LOVE the emotional reaction. Document everything and stick to the cold hard facts.
2023-12-26 18:41:18
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C++ Coach :
why wouldn't you just correct this in the meeting? "I'm sorry, who did you say the author was?"
2023-12-24 16:48:30
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Roberto :
whos x y z?
2023-12-22 20:40:20
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Nina DeLoux 🍉 :
My CEO/boss was a narcissist and I couldn’t escape it without leaving the company. Best decision for my own success I’ve ever made.
2023-12-27 11:56:46
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user7926945222026 :
2. how do I resolve this please. I've never had this comment in my old company . how do I hide my emotions
2023-12-22 16:03:12
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Claire | Work people tips :
Have you ever worked with a narcissist? Share your experiences in the comments 👀
2023-12-22 14:32:23
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Kathryn Imogen Nicholson :
I manage someone who undermines me, dominates meetings, then unsuccessfully tries to get HR against me. I don't understand why
2023-12-27 07:59:50
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Michelle Smith3593 :
Oh my goodness I’ve been dealing with this- it’s been the most draining exhausting experience!! Karma played nice they left!!!
2023-12-22 23:29:31
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Chicklet5 🇨🇦 :
Can this be a series please
2023-12-23 02:26:32
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Günter :
if your boss is like this...kinda stuck...if not fD
2023-12-22 19:24:32
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user7926945222026 :
1.my team always comments on how I act. if I respond quickly they say I have quick reactions /snarky responses or that I am blunt.
2023-12-22 16:02:41
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Kathryn Louise :
Worked and lived with 🤦🏼♀️
2024-01-09 19:14:15
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emmaxwz :
@chloe @helena 🫶🏻 CLAIRE BEAR
2024-01-12 22:12:03
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tokmn :
hands
2023-12-23 19:36:37
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Geekproductions :
Waiiiit how come you are convincing as the bad guy 😵 you must have met a few!
2023-12-22 17:01:48
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JoJo _78 :
my life with the bully at work at moment. luckily she's leaving. but I've realised the DARVO tactics, disengaged and I'm just glad I kept a diary
2024-01-15 21:26:59
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I Am Legend :
I have solution I actually used in my first job. I can’t explain details but he will never walk again 😏
2024-01-09 19:00:23
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doe.eyes.1942 :
@georgina @abby 🩷 gettin the tips in x
2024-01-14 16:54:16
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blindemannetje :
@lily
2024-01-13 18:41:18
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Rainer 🇦🇹/🇳🇴 :
Its insane to me how someone can manage to be so narcissistic it seems so difficult
2024-01-13 14:17:45
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dariya :
@Bilyana
2024-01-13 11:57:12
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TomPastles :
Does this work for school to?
2024-01-18 19:16:01
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Virginia :
I can relate to this. Had a friend betray me.
2024-01-19 19:29:59
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raymond :
@4startech is the best spy
2024-05-08 02:44:56
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Jess Jones :
I got this one from someone. Absolutely fuming - safe to say I never worked with them again and eventually got better than them
2024-01-11 13:51:26
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corol michael :
@4STARTECH HELP ME
2024-05-08 06:42:11
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SillNic :
@awalsh1390 reminds me of someone
2024-01-09 17:27:56
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Lisa :
My ex boss used to do this. In the end, I stopped submitting my work just to him and I sent it to him and his boss cc’d so they knew I did the work.
2024-01-09 18:51:33
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“KC” :
Exactly
2023-12-26 22:14:20
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FillZilla :
When this happens... Take It!... You were Stupidly Trusting! Don't ever be that person again. Nothing said after that is going to turn back time. Deal, Manage, Move On... Learn!!
2023-12-24 00:41:50
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📚Samantha📚 :
I'm struggling so much at work. my boss keeps dumping things on me with a tight turn around right as she will he away
2023-12-22 21:35:17
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EpicPanda :
Just having great relationships with others - is a win to present yourself as someone who did the job 👏
2023-12-23 00:27:41
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Anto_Domini :
You definitely need a part on Eastenders
2023-12-23 00:41:05
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@6ft9chef 🏴 :
That's why I don't talk to my mother. One less narcissist in my life.
2023-12-23 08:47:36
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user583138003821 :
Claire bear 🤣
2024-01-17 23:46:00
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JanetFS :
I have to admit I lol’d at Claire Bear. I wasn’t ready for it.
2024-01-17 01:27:28
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junaidaslam :
You have a career as an actor. The narcissist was frightening.
2023-12-23 09:35:42
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Juniper ! :
narcissists are people diagnosed with npd not mentally well self absorbed people stop calling people without npd narcissists
2024-01-13 18:53:16
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AedynJak :
I would have exposed her in the meeting in a very clear way
2023-12-24 07:21:31
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Mammers :
😂😂😂
2023-12-26 20:50:10
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WorldsUnluckiestDoot :
My mothers a narcissist, and I work with plenty
2024-01-13 09:04:16
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El Caballero :
Your content is brilliant.. thank you for the examples and reframe .. it is so helpful
2024-01-11 16:24:54
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user364402 :
your voice is so monotone i’m surprised people don’t get annoyed with it
2023-12-27 13:22:25
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AiOp.Net :
You are extremely knowledgeable and talented when it comes to people management, how did you develop these skills?
2024-01-09 20:28:02
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magic.karb :
💯💯💯
2023-12-30 11:44:36
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