@dr..angelica.shie: Commonly the scapegoated partner has an “I’m too much and abandonable” wound, and the golden partner has a “who am I if not the pet/hero” wound. So very often, the golden partner is high risk for enmeshment with his parent, and the scapegoat partner is extra sensitive to his “disloyality.” Not all the time, but often. Can it be gender reverse or same-sex? Of course. #anxiousavoidantattachment #anxiousdisorganizedattachment #anxiouspreoccupiedattachment #anxiousattachment #familyoforigin #scapegoat #blacksheep #goldenchild #identity #childdevelopment #validation #couples #Relationship #communication #enmeshment #attunement #mirroring #couplestherapy

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lvraider66
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so basically everyone is broken you just have to find the right partner that wants to heal together
2024-01-03 19:20:28
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thefabpedestrian
thefabpedestrian :
Girl I— my life
2024-01-03 13:45:55
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bettybanksy227
Bettybanksy227 :
I am said black sheep with an abandonment wound but have been healing for years. He was the golden retriever who refused to get help. WOW
2024-01-04 15:04:27
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xoxojksn97
✨𝐸𝑏𝑜𝑛𝑦✨ :
Oh god🙄 This was me and my ex. To make it worse I’m the oldest daughter and he was the youngest son 😭😂
2024-01-03 14:33:53
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oddlittleducks
oddlittleducks 🆘️🇺🇸 :
Holy shit! this was my marriage. except my golden boy chose his mom over his wife. he also didn't engage in therapy. he went. but refused to engage.
2024-01-03 13:33:07
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shankyspork
ShankySpork :
Oh my god, this! I’m so fortunate that we both learned communication and trust. We helped each other grow so much, I’m so lucky.
2024-01-03 13:44:45
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myown361
Cats :
It’s January third I did not need a call out this early into the new year
2024-01-03 14:25:47
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finallywhereibelong1
Rose Above :
SEEN. We've both been highly committed to personal growth and the magic that happens on the other side is AMAZING
2024-01-03 13:55:12
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thattxdogmomlady
ThatTXDogMomLady :
*suspicious face* .... how do you know so much about me ? sshhheeesssshhhh
2024-01-03 14:26:45
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runawayg
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oh god. u cleared me
2024-01-04 07:40:24
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perfectlyaskew
Nicole :
So. This is my marriage…. But we ROCK together!
2024-01-03 15:05:16
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ashleyjmark
Ashley :
This was us-but when I started asking for reassurance, he simply said he couldn’t do it. We divorced after 12 years.
2024-01-03 15:05:00
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xenerfy
Xenerfy :
This sent me into an absolute fight/flight response
2024-01-03 17:52:51
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shanicelittlejohn1
Shanice Littlejohn :
As the disorganize attached girl I tell my avoidant attachment boy to SAY NO! Stop saying yes every single time. And he lets me know no one will leave
2024-01-04 00:55:17
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dementedfoxx
Demon Fox :
This is me and my fiancé. I did a lot of therapy before I met him. I often tell him I don’t want a servant I want a partner so he went to therapy 🥰
2024-01-03 16:03:01
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mildysharpjen
mildysharpjen :
I am Jennifer.
2024-01-05 00:29:22
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dej_onstage
dej :
Why do you know so much about me and my ex
2024-01-03 19:20:13
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auntienay13
auntie nay :
this is us! holidays with family we tend to re ert right back to these roles and it takes weeks to recover
2024-01-03 13:40:03
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that_spooky_goth_
that_spooky_goth_bitch :
I’m sobbing rn this is everything
2024-01-03 14:29:49
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kirabrintonxo
kirabrintonxo :
This really resonated with me. I’m an only child and so I think that’s why I was tossed around into so many different roles in my family.
2024-01-03 18:58:42
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nanabahisenough
Nanabahisenough :
Omg, so close, except we married in midlife, no kids, we adored each other until Alzheimer’s stole and twisted him. 27 yrs, 20 were golden
2024-01-03 14:49:18
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pixie.dollette
pixie :
Also the AVOIDANT ON THE OUTSIDE IS SO TRUE but deep down I'm crippling with anxiety analysing on this level
2024-01-03 18:20:36
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luxlizbon
luxlizbon :
a book about these types would be so helpful
2024-01-03 19:14:10
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