Noni star :
You know, this really hurts me. As a 5’6 woman, I used to be a UK size 12 before I turned 16. Now I’m 20, and I’ve gone up to a size 16. I’ve been trying to lose weight, but it hasn’t been easy.
My mum has her own history with weight. Before she had me, she was extremely small—like a size 0. She’s talked about her struggles, so I understand where some of this might come from. But at the same time, it feels like she takes it out on me.
Even when I was a size 12, she would call me fat—despite the fact that she isn’t even that size herself. Now that I’ve gained weight, she still calls me fat, and it hurts even more because I’m actually trying to change.
For example, I made a simple meal—boiled potatoes and carrots, basically a soup—because I’m trying to eat healthier. After I finished eating, she asked me if I enjoyed the “12 pieces of potatoes” I had cooked. She had been there watching me cook, so it felt like she was mocking me. It really upset me.
It feels like no matter what I do, I can’t win. When I was smaller, she criticised me. Now that I’m bigger and trying to improve, she still puts me down. Instead of support, I get comments that make me feel worse.
I know this doesn’t fully relate to the wider topic about women harming other women, but it does show how these issues can start at home—where you’d expect support the most.
2026-04-01 12:38:38