I really struggle because I'm genuinely a problem solver and it is my main form of support and forget sometimes people don't need problem solving
2024-03-19 09:43:50
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Rae Ann Neal :
always interested in the deep psychology behind things. bring it. love it.
2024-02-21 22:58:54
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lei-lei ليلى :
when i don't know what i need and am distressed i like it when my partner asks yes/no for my basic needs. "do you need a tissue"
2024-01-25 19:10:22
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Raven Margot :
what if your partner gets mad when you try to help them and are just not "cooperating" and start saying mean things even tho Ur trying to help them
2024-02-18 18:08:05
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Lolol :
Hold on tho. Why is that my job? That causes me so much stress and they dont ever learn to do it for themselves 🥺
2024-06-03 17:37:57
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Katie Hockenbury :
Please do more this is SO HELPFUL
2024-01-25 23:42:17
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Prismic :
Could you get into what to do if even those either/or ar met with “I don’t know”? Especially the “stay or left alone” one
2024-01-27 23:48:18
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Ліл :
i overthink and start crying in front of my person and cant really identify a reason at the spot and cant tell them how to help me, what do i do?
2024-02-18 15:49:33
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Blossom :
my husband and I ask if the other needs to make the decisions and if the answer is yes they might ask clarifying questions, kinda like consent, but
2024-02-22 10:39:40
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Aunty_Becca :
I was watching this, because I am the person who does not know what I need, but decision fatigue is real 🙃 and the answer is always distraction.
2024-01-29 01:38:33
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kayyy :
im an RA at my university, thank you for this!!! so much!!! its not always easy to combat issues when youre unsure
2024-01-25 19:09:58
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messygloss :
Super helpful info, thank you! I feel like I would even struggle with answering these questions 😅
2024-02-18 22:25:48
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sannemarie :
This advice was so helpful! It helps understand why - as a teacher to teens - the ‘open’ questions we are taught are ‘better’ don’t always work or make the situation more overwhelming.
2024-02-08 11:21:05
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Lark :
what if they still say "I don't know" to every question you offer? Dealing with this issue and I feel so helpless/useless
2024-02-19 04:32:51
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Antónia :
for me, only yes and no questions BUT it's the option type, broke into 2 separate yes or no questions. for example: ↓
2024-02-18 20:47:26
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YourLocalDronian :
This is something I struggle with in my meltdowns, sharing with my wife is creating thoughts and threads of communication we haven't considered before
2024-01-26 13:20:22
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Laurie :
More please! BA psych and Dusl MAR here and this is MY JAM. You’re giving pretty amazing language. Rewatched until it let me repost. 10/10
2024-01-25 20:16:16
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frump :
yes to more details!
2024-01-25 19:28:50
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Grace :
This was such good advice!!!!🔥🔥
2024-01-25 20:17:51
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ahrensbach_32 :
More 🥺
2024-01-25 20:26:22
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solenne :
thank you
2024-01-25 19:14:31
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Foxxie :
yes please, more on this!
2024-01-29 01:56:03
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Sierra :
My favorite is when my partner or I have a bad day we ask “do you want me in listening mode or problem solving mode?”
2024-01-28 18:22:09
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Alix Klingenberg Poetry :
I’d love a way to describe to my non-anxious partner why having needs feels awful/dangerous
2024-01-30 16:31:10
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Juls :
please keep elaborating this is so helpful
2024-01-25 22:07:02
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