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DesiDooLittle :
I appreciate this. I would go silent with my abuser because I knew talking wouldn't get me anywhere and I've always questioned myself if I was being manipulative.
2024-02-04 04:02:57
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Hey, Jeanay 👋🏾 :
My husband hasn’t spoken to me in 21 days bc of an argument over dishes. THAT is abuse!
2024-03-28 04:59:21
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Zaffris :
so did I get this right, if I go cold & silent towards my partner after fighting w them for a while, them not taking accountability, blameshifting etc, that‘s actually fair? 🥲
2024-04-22 16:29:36
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For.the.love.of.boardgames :
I’ve always liked the explanation: Silent treatment is meant to take away your peace, upholding a boundary is meant to give you peace.
2024-02-06 20:28:41
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user11183445087672 :
I have silent weekends for ME. My kid got it, was kind about it. We communicated differently. Ex hubby hated them and called them stupid :/
2024-02-04 13:28:03
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Alyssa :
I get the silent treatment EVERY day! If I am "gone too long" etc.
2024-11-23 00:36:32
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MutherTruckinMaMA :
Oh my! I am not with my narcissist anymore but honestly for years, I thought I was abusive for shutting down
2024-02-04 15:40:25
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Mandy Pandy :
He gave me the silent treatment for 36 hours this time and then started talking to me and groping me like he didn’t just ignore me after I caught him in a lie and confronted him about it
2025-01-06 04:18:53
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Ashley :
Near the end of my relationship the silent treatment was a god send. It was finally quiet, no one was yelling at me…
2024-02-04 03:36:41
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alina 🐼 :
We are allowed to remove ourselves from disrespect.
2024-02-04 02:07:48
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Cootanat :
He did it to me for days until I cried and then he would mock me for crying, nothing was ever resolved unless I just didn’t bring it up!
2024-02-04 11:29:20
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Ruby the Spot 🐶 🆘🇺🇸 :
We have nothing left - the quiet is better than the noise 😞
2024-02-04 16:28:02
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Natasha Plu :
This was so helpful. I was having trouble understanding. I would stop talking and think that silent treatment wasn’t right. I just couldn’t anymore.
2024-02-04 02:17:16
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Natasha Hall891 :
I appreciate you explaining the difference between these. I knew there was a difference but I'm fresh on my healing journey and couldn't really always
2024-02-04 02:25:10
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Wendy H :
one time an ex had to tell me he was giving the silent treatment, I thought we were having a nice peaceful weekend. I'm not good at that game 😄
2024-02-04 20:17:20
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Lise :
mine will literally walk away while Im trying to talk to him. but I'm supposed to have sex with him on demand.
2024-02-04 02:08:45
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Anna :
The last time my son to be ex gave me the silent treatment for almost 3 months and it was long enough to realize how peaceful it was.
2024-02-04 16:15:00
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think link :
At the end i was so quiet and it was never about manipulation- i literally just didn’t have words anymore. I really appreciate this.
2024-02-04 13:26:03
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ida moore :
I don't talk sometimes because no matter what I would say, I would be the bad guy saying how I felt.
2024-02-05 05:40:32
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SomeRandomUser :
My ex would give me silent treatment when I defended myself or gave clear boundaries on how not to treat me.
2024-02-04 07:43:17
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sabrinacabrina :
what about saying. I'm really angry right now and I'm not going to talk right now.
2024-02-04 18:18:42
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eeyore974 :
my father stopped speaking to me. this was going on for 4 months. then he died.
2024-02-04 07:15:37
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Leah Smith :
saving this to rewatch and memorize. both me and my partner have a lot of toxic trauma responses and we've been trying to do better for each other.
2024-02-06 14:33:14
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Jordan :
as someone with autism, I have shutdowns that make me go non verbal. I am NOT stonewalling.
2024-02-06 07:36:50
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Jo Resner :
My ex would refuse to speak to me sometimes for days and called it "setting boundaries" but it would usually be after I tried to hold them accountable
2024-02-05 03:51:46
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user8643664478748943u964 :
I preferred the silent treatment. It was the only time I had peace. Him raging everyday without me being able to walk away was torture. 😭
2024-02-04 20:35:35
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Sylvia Gomez :
Thank you for clearifying the difference.
2024-02-04 18:48:03
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amber jean :
my ex would give me the silent treatment all the time. and sometimes it was up to TWO WEEKS. it's horroble
2024-02-04 17:49:17
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AlyssaLove :
Your explanations are so clear and understandable. I’m so sorry you had to endure a lot of abusive behaviors to learn all this, but you are def making a difference now, this is so helpful! ❤️
2024-02-04 15:09:44
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Carissa Hunt :
I completely shut down to my abusive partner and he tried to convince me I was the problem for being an avoidant and giving the silent treatment.
2024-02-04 02:23:16
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J96 :
1. I told my parent I’d have a civil conversation with him but if he’s going to yell, I would be leaving. Which made him yell more and get mad that
2024-02-07 15:48:35
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Rhaine17 :
It took me 33 years to figure out that what my sister was doing to me was emotional abuse. When I put up a boundary we didn’t speak for 12 years.
2024-02-05 22:46:04
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Apostate Alexei :
I would stonewall sometimes when we'd be in conflict. I also had a strong urge to flee. when things were bad, I didn't feel safe. then she'd say I'm abandoning her, even if I'd try to explain myself
2024-02-05 04:25:38
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queen_eleanor :
This is something my ex husband did frequently
2024-02-04 18:53:40
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elp466 :
I was NEVER allowed down time.If he caught me sitting thinking he would be in my face inches from me asking repeatedly what's wrong,till we fought.
2024-02-04 16:32:53
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MF :
Maybe with enough silence they will do some introspection because clearly words fail to make sense to them. 🤷♀️
2024-02-04 03:07:19
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Unlikely Survivor :
have you noticed one of an abuser/abuser apologist's favorite phrases is that intent is meaningless? this is not a coincidence.
2024-02-04 03:00:45
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Fra99le :
Silent treatment can be so damaging…. I’d be ignored, as if I didn’t exist. If I made a coffee, or a meal, he’d stand and rant about having a useless
2024-02-05 20:28:36
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ctdancemomkat :
Ok my phone DEFINITELY LISTENED TO ME RIGHT NOW. I told my husband I need him to support me & not give me cold shoulder. He was telling me that I was
2024-02-05 18:26:11
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Devin M. Land :
my mom use to ignore me for days when I was a child to upset me when I told my ex he started to do it
2024-02-05 14:40:51
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autumnsend :
Middle-of-night fights, the inability to discuss because you can’t think what to say; it’s been 20 years since my abuse and I can’t remember… (1)
2024-02-05 03:31:41
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Jo :
Oh, I’ve used these terms wrong
2024-02-05 03:02:35
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Clarkeroni 🇨🇦💚 :
This is so incredibly helpful, it’s like you are in my brain. Thank you 💕
2024-02-05 02:00:51
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Sadieshops :
very helpful information ❤️❤️
2024-02-05 00:40:43
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Cece :
I’ve had a hard time lately, but this video reminded me I’m emotionally intelligent and I’m doing okay thank you
2024-02-05 00:07:44
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elle :
Oh my gosh yes. I sometimes do get so stressed I need to not talk. I was always told it was manipulative. I COULDNT talk.
2024-02-04 20:48:35
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theprettypoundcake🎀 :
This was so insightful and helpful
2024-02-04 19:20:57
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