Dusty Thunder
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Somer Leighann :
Once you get to a certain age there are no "participation trophies". Daughter needs to find out what she wants to do and do it.
2024-02-05 01:19:01
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Kylie Abbott :
It strikes me that the accomplishments here are both academic - I'd be curious to know if other non-academic achievements are being overlooked
2024-02-05 01:30:03
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Tiffany L :
Candy Thunder is a very wise soul! ♥️
2024-10-16 20:19:42
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Nat 🍉 :
as a college dropout myself it takes a drastic toll on your self esteem. the daughter needs support, though not in the form of a celebration dinner.
2024-02-05 18:30:30
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19ravenjamespoe :
I failed at everything and then I became a school bus driver which is not what most people think is a desirable job but I love it and won't do anything else
2024-02-05 01:18:40
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Anita Morgan :
one year in primary school, my sister and brother both got multiple awards, and I didn't. on the way home, with their prizes, my mum bought me a treat from the bakery and said "We're proud of you too"
2024-02-05 11:18:57
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Lulu :
NTA is right but I agree that daughter needs some guidance or attention
2024-02-05 01:26:55
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Annie :
Maybe OP could have a "brainstorming" dinner with 20 yo. Narrow down her interests and suggest ways to find out if those things could be a career eg.
2024-02-05 08:07:27
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lashores :
It is ok not to know at age 20 but her azz still ain’t got nothing to celebrate 🤣
2024-02-05 11:13:33
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Dustin Ring :
Definition of “Participation Trophy Generation”. I feel as yes talking w/ her about setting goals would be a great idea. Also doesnt matter what u call it, the dinner is accomplishment based. Period.
2024-12-18 18:05:34
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🌻Toodaloomotherfuka 🌻 :
I agree with Candy. Take her out to dinner and communicate with her. One on one.
2024-02-05 01:27:10
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Serin In Stitches :
NTA, but take her on a “you’re an amazing person and I’m so happy you’re my daughter” meal for sure
2024-02-05 01:21:37
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Hannah :
I propose a new acronym AWCT agree with candy thunder.
2024-02-05 01:58:30
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🩷💜💙 Leesha 🩷💛🩵 :
I do agree w/ Candy Thunder. However, my siblings all had academic accomplishments & I did not. I know how the 20yo feels & she probably feels unloved
2024-02-05 02:03:11
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Lyric Hunt :
why did she drop out of college? was it grade related or was there something deeper? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
2024-02-05 01:54:53
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Cordi-Barrows&Dotti2🍉 :
NTA, not how life works
2024-02-05 01:20:53
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MellyRey :
Me graduating from nursing school at the age of 40 🙈LPN at 32 RN at 40 😬
2024-02-05 06:11:17
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Shortie :
We have dates. My daughter and I have mother-daughter dates and do things together. It gives us time to talk and bond
2024-02-05 01:42:09
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memaw_debbie :
Maybe lunch instead of dinner, but I don't feel OP is an Ahole. You don't get a celebration for existing. (Except for your birthday 😂)
2024-02-05 01:18:25
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Nope :
Depends on whether you acknowledge all her accomplishments or just sees the lack of academic ones😅
2024-02-05 05:37:47
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Cobwebstobookseams🕸️📚🫧 :
I agree with Candy thunder
2024-02-05 01:21:15
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👻 :
I'm sensing a family that puts emphasis on life successes and a daughter with mental health or similar issues who just wants to feel loved and appreciated
2024-02-05 01:23:39
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ACE22 Comment Queen 👸 :
I had tough teen years and got in trouble a fair amount. it was at a point that nothing positive I did was acknowledged because I had a negative past
2024-02-05 01:20:57
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G :
Yeah no, at 20… she can learn the hard way
2024-02-05 01:39:14
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Ed242bear :
No
2024-02-05 15:26:57
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Craft with Love518 :
NTA. is daughter needing support, or wanting attention? hard to tell without more info about daughter 🤷🏽♀️
2024-02-05 01:21:20
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Gord Rendell :
NTA - this smacks of wanting a participation trophy. Take her out to lunch ask what her plans are. Sounds like she needs a push or encouragement
2024-02-05 02:59:32
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Nana61 :
If she gets a job interview, celebration.
2024-02-05 01:35:06
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ifrit demon :
I have a 50-year-old person at work that keeps on saying they want a promotion but when there's work to be done they stand around and don't do anythin
2024-02-05 02:53:49
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Laura 🎨👩🏻🎨 Paint and such :
I feel that. I think dusty has a great point. Life is a roller coaster. Sounds like she needs connection during tough parts of life. That’s what a sup
2024-02-05 04:11:41
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PandoraLockhart :
Candy thunder nailing it as usual.
2024-02-05 01:26:31
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andreaGenX418🌈 :
I didn’t find my passion until I was in my late 40s
2024-02-05 01:23:19
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britt.bella.armenta :
An encouragement dinner. take her somewhere and brainstorm some ideas of what she would like to do and set some goals.
2024-02-05 01:26:16
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Torrey :
ABSO-freaking-LUTELY not.
2024-02-05 01:23:41
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Lourdes Reyna-Lyon :
Parents need to remember their children have different needs & be individualized. "rewards" vs emotional recognition makes a difference.
2024-02-05 01:35:31
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wonkyshoebox :
I feel he's nta for denying the accomplishment dinner but what candy said is good too. I remember my siblings were both musically gifted and awards 1/
2024-02-05 12:22:14
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justyce1979 :
tough love... Don't give in, but I agree father daughter bonding dinner
2024-02-05 01:25:35
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Casey Wilson :
kandy how I wish you were my mum💗💗💗
2024-02-05 01:43:14
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Variza Caroll🇩🇴 :
😳 I don’t know it’s like rewarding her for doing nothing 🙄
2024-02-08 02:15:34
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TolaniHerself :
I’m 35 and the unmarried child-free one in my family. I’m not unaccomplished but do often feel like I’m a spectator in everyone else’s lives which
2024-02-08 00:19:29
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Alejandra Lopez :
I think dad is putting his own standards on what an accomplishment looks like, talking to daughter putting those standards aside might let her and him see that she has had accomplishments
2024-02-06 07:36:48
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Eky C. P :
OP need to understand when daughter came to ask celebration dinner, she was crying for help, needed to be valued as a person. OP failed to recognize.
2024-02-06 03:51:20
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Peter Haag :
I used to have pizza and resume nights with my mother in law and that was just great
2024-02-06 01:50:47
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..rachael.. :
this is great advise I can use on my oldest kid. thank you!
2024-02-06 14:24:28
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Trish :
The way OP words this makes me feel like they are overlooking many of their daughter’s achievements.
2024-02-05 18:11:18
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Candice Rodriguez :
I'm 36 and still don't know what I want to do. I work because I have to not because I love my job. I
2024-02-07 00:11:21
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Sarah K. :
I've wanted to be a writer since I could form sentences. My parents wouldn't let me major in Creative Writing so I went for language teaching, not-
2024-02-05 12:06:03
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FluteMusic88 :
I get it…. My sister is married, a mom to two kids, and has had all the celebrations to go with all that. I’m disabled…sooooo….nothing to celebrate.
2024-02-05 08:02:16
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Herbie Hancock :
Not every kid is meant for college, I hope OP is more encouraging to her daughter than she comes across.
2024-02-05 06:46:03
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