@claireauden: The devaluation phase with a covert narcissist starts out so subtley. #covertnarc #narcissistbehavior #covertnarcissist #narcissisticrelationshiprecovery #narcissism #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narctok #narcaware #npd #narc #narctokadvice
When you’re out you see everything so clearly. Don’t waste years like I did.
2024-02-06 14:09:00
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Nicole 🦋 :
Mine also communicated through looks. He just had to look at something or even look at me to show me he disapproved. I knew exactly what he meant.
2024-02-06 08:26:10
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Intuitive Vibes :
Okay but no one talks about devaluation which starts at the very beginning. Why? Everyone talks about the "1. Lovebombing then devaluation scenario" but no one talks about how some narcissists immediately starts with devaluation. It happened to me twice (female coworker in work and guy who wanted to get to know me only in friendship way, not anything romantic). And I wish so badly to know why they are doing it and why do they even decide to choose this from start.
2025-09-22 05:22:34
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Johnson Augustus :
I am a victim
2024-05-02 19:06:54
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Raquel Perales :
They also use sleep deprivation and will do things to keep you awake.
2024-02-08 15:06:08
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creaturefeaturefiend :
It’s so subtle that even years afterwards, with lots of therapy, I still question if it was real or if I deserved it because maybe I was the narcissist. I pushed away people who loved me…
2024-02-07 19:12:27
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Alesa :
Question: if I get him into therapy, is it likely that he will change for the better? 5yr.relationship as of now and I just realized what he is...
2024-02-09 09:59:30
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Kathy Jacobs :
They encourage you to go out with a friend but then hold it against you/berate you for going and not spending the time with them.
2024-02-07 20:56:25
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jusslikemagick :
All of this but also they will weaponize incompetence so YOU end up hyper critical about daily chores
2024-02-10 15:38:32
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PinkVelvet0214 :
The best revenge is healing your life.
2024-02-06 12:33:00
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Banana Rama :
This is my bf, six years and I’m a shell of a person
2024-02-27 08:05:23
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Ruvie Mushambi :
Sounds like both my parents 😂😂
2025-02-09 19:26:52
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Grit, Grace, & Gratitude :
The gifts you buy. The way you express your thoughts. The money you spend.
2024-02-06 22:27:38
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autumn jane 🍂 :
i broke down one time bc it had been building up and then one day he told me i didn't put the pizza in the oven correctly and i just started crying
2024-02-06 13:18:44
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Beautiful Chaos 65 :
It’s life destroying. I am finally out trying to rebuild. I lost everything
2024-02-06 09:25:45
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HeatherG_OnlineProfitBiz :
It felt horrible…he had one set of rules for himself, another set for me, and I didn’t get to know what they were.
2024-02-07 20:18:00
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Cheyenne Madison :
I remember when she became a "Naysayer". Suddenly she thought the opposite of me about EVERYTHING, and anything I like or wanted was talked down.
2024-02-06 15:43:11
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lorianneweber :
I've had an empty noodle box following me around the house for 4 days because I put it in the spot where I had just taken the cardboard from 2 days before to bring to the dump and he went and picked
2024-03-25 02:49:38
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Nina, a Bitch in Progress :
The silence, looks, pouting, immediate anger at any emotion unless it's pain, then there is glee behind it... It's exhausting.
2024-02-06 15:43:00
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DawnShimoda :
I was raised by a narcissist who gas let me about the way that I felt when I was treated this way so I have a lot of these traits without feeling like I can affect people. it's so toxic
2024-03-26 10:01:17
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Liza :
I still struggle to understand and explain it to people. Sometimes it was just a tone, a look. Others it was prioritize everyone but me. He looked away when I was speaking for no reason. Subtle ways to let me know when I spoke it wasn’t important.
2025-08-04 04:00:27
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ByardandBeyond :
omg this is the first real explanation that actually described and confirmed for me what has exactly happened to me. don't stop making these videos
2024-02-19 21:46:48
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LollieBear :
Literally, the night I left, HE made a Facebook post about being the victim of narcissistic abuse!
2024-03-01 04:38:04
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