@beefnuggette: ❤️‍🩹 Sappy, personal story ahead:⁣ ⁣ Many of you know I was in two horribly abusive relationships (didn’t learn my lesson the first time) over the last 5 years that I’m still in therapy repairing the CPTSD/anxiety damage from. ⁣ ⁣ I was isolated from friends and family, and I almost took my own life multiple times from it. After I broke the trauma bond and escaped, I was 110% planning to be single for the rest of my life. Okay…well maybe with 5 French bulldogs. Lol⁣ ⁣ But then this man, @cj_ultracyclopath came into my life.⁣ ⁣ We had actually said hi to each other and met in person for the first time in 2018 at a national bodybuilding show we both did, but then we went back to our separate lives & partners on opposite sides of the country, until the end of last year. ⁣ ⁣ When we reconnected, I realized we hold the exact same beliefs, humor, music taste, values, ambitions, active lifestyles, party animal pasts, personality dispositions, love languages, & even mental health struggles from our pasts and previously abusive partners with personality disorders.⁣ ⁣ It just felt effortless with him. ⁣ ⁣ It hasn’t been that long, but we still haven’t had a single argument. While disagreements are inevitable in life, I know we’d never degrade or insult each other, and he would never EVER physical hurt me. ⁣ ⁣ Relationships aren’t about fighting to be right or to win. That’s selfish and toxic. Anyone who thinks “oh that’s just normal,” it’s not. They last when people communicate calmly, honestly, and come to agreements together in the end that make you stronger.⁣ ⁣ So, I took the leap, even though I was still terrified. ⁣ ⁣ This is just a reminder, or maybe an ounce of hope for someone else struggling.⁣ ⁣ There ARE people out there who will treat you right. You just have to fight for yourself, heal in therapy, and wait. ⁣ ⁣ It still took me like 120 nights to overcome my fear of falling asleep next to someone after being hit, kicked, threatened, intentionally sleep deprived, woken up to broken belongings, etc.⁣ ⁣ As my therapist told me once:⁣ ⁣ H.O.P.E. - Hold On, Pain Ends.⁣ ⁣ And if you give it a chance, you’ll believe in love again someday, like I do now. ❤️ #loveafterabuse

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Thursday 21 March 2024 06:24:21 GMT