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PortlandLisa :
As a Gen X, there's a lot of truth here, but I'm curious about what our parents were going through that made this the norm for so many of us.
2024-03-26 03:42:54
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chr_hisss :
This is so me. I’m totally disassociated and detached emotionally from my parents. I have up such a wall because I know they can never meet my emotional needs, so I keep them that arms distance 😔
2024-03-26 18:42:17
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KeithGenX617 :
That's really interesting. I remember a lot of discussions from adults when I was a child, about whether or not people should let their infants "cry it out."
2024-03-26 12:26:00
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Sematawy :
As a millennial I also identify with this
2024-03-26 04:30:52
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Justloliehh :
What ages are gen X again?👀 I keep forgetting
2024-03-26 15:15:43
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Susan Brown :
The caption is great, but that intro joke was a miss, friend.
2024-03-26 03:24:44
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Gr8Mmmy :
I was that baby that stopped crying. I remember it so well. It turned into not crying while being abused. I had to go to therapy to learn to cry.
2024-06-10 01:59:26
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bassalicious_🍉 :
Crying 😭 this is so real and absolutely my experience. I got the full catastrophe when I had my own kid 😅
2024-03-26 23:25:21
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denay_j :
This makes so much sense
2024-03-29 19:37:46
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✨Sn0rky✨ :
I have absolutely no clue how to identify my emotional needs
2024-06-16 07:59:47
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Blackwell’s Glass (Cathryn) :
Gen X here. Our boomer parents were awful.
2024-03-27 01:45:35
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Mike :
ironically I've got a great relationship with my kids by using my parents as the guide not how to do it. But still can't express my own needs
2024-06-06 21:38:49
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#RareDiseaseSlayer :
Heyyy there. The link to subscribe to ur newsletter isn’t working? I tried multiple times and it gives an error.
2024-05-17 14:47:43
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Michelle (Shelly) Laven :
Arrow to the heart on this one. Waited to have a child until 36. I KNOW I’m a better parent, but in my attempt to fill my child’s emotional needs, I’m afraid I’ve induced separation anxiety. Now what?
2024-07-03 03:18:37
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Claire S :
That’s me in a nutshell. Expect I am 20 not 50
2024-03-27 00:30:38
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Amber Trydin🔥 :
can millennia also suffer from this? Genuine question.
2024-03-27 13:15:43
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kahine :
literally would be so disconnected it would take me hours to answer a question from my boyfriend about what I needed in so many given areas. Now it is almost in real time. Really encouraging.
2025-04-29 21:12:46
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Allison King :
May I hop into your dms? I am dealing with this in and I want to share an experience that was cathartic for me. Maybe it can help others?
2024-03-26 21:46:36
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geebisi :
My husband to this day disagrees with my parenting style of attending to my children crying in the crib (now 18, 20 n 23) and I will still attend to screaming crying child😍
2025-08-11 17:05:08
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Agent of Chaos v2.0 :
Which plant?
2025-10-09 14:28:39
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Abi 🇺🇸=🔥🗑️🆘😭 :
This is interesting. My husband is 13yo than me and very solidly genX. The difference between how we view our own needs is shocking to me 😳
2024-03-26 11:42:21
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Rubia Con Violeta :
I love how we Can apply this to ppl marching demanding rights and those who find them “bothersome “
2024-03-26 03:38:38
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djb1981 :
Me, an Xennial watching this: This explains why I have a huge interest in weight lifting and martial arts in my 40s.
2024-03-26 06:26:16
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KateFaw :
THE reason why "cry it out" is abuse
2024-03-28 12:51:56
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Khamsin Untamed Oracle :
Yea this is why I went from a metaphysical teacher to helping other over come trauma. Who knows where I parents learned to ignore our tears ?
2024-03-29 02:46:20
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Artemis :
BIPOC Xennial here- I have trouble asking for help. Yet as @Mel Robbins says, “no one is coming to save you.” While children should have needs met, what about learning self soothing & self efficacy?
2024-03-26 10:34:21
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amw70 :
wow this is so true,I just don't communicate anymore Battle scars
2024-03-26 06:08:07
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h.kiser88 :
ok so after denying your needs your whole life how do know what your needs are? how do I reconnect to my own needs? also how to fight the negative self talk and emotion of guilt when caring for self?
2024-05-17 15:14:47
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readiness :
As a child and teen therapist, getting a variation of “they were perfect as a baby - they never cried as a baby … no not even when they needed something. They were great & independent” from parents
2024-04-06 17:52:24
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kiana :
Wow my dad is Gen X and it’s like you explained him. I used to be so angry and bitter with him. I’m hurt of course but knowing where he’s coming from is helping me realize I was angry because I didnt-
2024-05-27 21:52:35
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lane_actually :
Facts on (painful) facts.
2024-03-26 09:13:17
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Katherine Larson575 :
gen z here! I just got used to being emotionally abused and getting yelled at and scolded when I tried to stand up for myself. but nobody else did
2024-07-23 04:14:18
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CopDocAndie :
Why do insurance companies pay less for family/couples therapy?!? It literally supports the whole system…even work and friend dynamics.
2024-05-25 20:40:50
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The Unmuted Poet 🇨🇦 :
and that sense of "figure it out for yourself" majorly impacted how those gen xers (or border boomers) interacted with their millennial kids
2024-05-26 23:47:16
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🌟✨Seeker✨🌟 :
I'm an elder millennial who was raised by boomers, and I also identify with this.
2024-05-29 03:06:16
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IMNS :
I can't express my needs to myself, how in the world can I convey them to someone else?
2024-06-06 12:47:01
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musingsofaraven :
Super interesting! My parents told me stories of letting me cry myself to sleep every night. I think they said it was recommended in a book? First born and GenX here
2024-06-12 09:36:39
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gen x therapist :
💀
2025-05-26 14:00:33
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2187revanshan :
as someone who is a child of 2 gen x, I have both their neglect as well as my own. which is always followed with, "that what I went through and I'm fine".
2024-06-17 17:22:56
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Beth Sanford 🏳️🌈 :
Yes! I do feel like I’m becoming a better more available parent as I experience nurturing from my husband. I didn’t even know what it was in some ways until he came into my life.
2025-04-28 22:59:50
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sarahb251🇨🇦 :
My sister & I have been discussing our emotional neglect a lot lately. Our mother said she was following the advise of some popular child psychologist at that time. Can't remember his name.
2024-06-18 08:39:59
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TwitchGlitch :
i feel like this explains so much about gen x politics. particularly those that are apolitical and look at people who do care about politics and world issues as naive or ridiculous.
2024-06-20 21:09:02
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Nancy Jane :
Welp. Solidly Millenial here and you’ve given me a framework to talk about this experience I’ve had of screaming into the abyss…and the realization that a long time ago I shut up…
2024-07-02 06:11:26
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Chauntelle A Russell :
100%%%
2024-11-23 06:00:04
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ashofthetitans :
I thought you were referring to yourself as Gen x & I was like…damn babe, you look good for 50 😆
2024-07-03 14:45:06
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Jody :
Would this also manifest in the constant hope that someone will notice our need and fill it without us asking? I feel like that is how I avoid vulnerability.
2024-08-07 12:58:55
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R F L O W E R S R I V E R A :
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2024-03-27 11:16:42
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SmellRanger :
As an adult this turning off looks like apathy, the death of relationships….😢
2024-03-26 04:54:05
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Jennifer Meadows345 :
With approx 50% of people having an insecure attachment style, why are Gen X being singled out? Sincere question? Drugs? Screen time?
2024-03-26 10:05:49
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Jess Means :
Elder millennial and yes this kept on going into our generation
2024-03-26 12:59:48
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Peacemaker :
What do you do if you become someone who can give those emotional supports to others but still doesn’t expect it back?
2024-03-26 13:08:04
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Kristeena :
Xennial here and this is me and my sisters
2024-03-26 14:00:44
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Nat :
Yes! Similar to the Romanian orphaned babies.
2024-03-26 17:13:49
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Tata💐 :
I was able to save my relationship with the good spell reading of @Physic spell and Astrology 💖💖
2024-03-26 18:51:06
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