@missclairebenjamin: 🚨Handling the “micromanager”👇 Having a micromanager can feel very frustrating and difficult to navigate. If you’re faced with this situation I would always recommend avoiding criticism and instead raising how you’re feeling directly and respectfully. There are many reasons managers micromanage. Here are the 3 common ones: 1️⃣ They are not aware the way they are approaching things is coming across to you as micromanaging 2️⃣ They are worried about losing control and this is something they need to work on 3️⃣ There isn’t enough trust between you both which is leading to them not feeling confident you will do things if they don’t oversee it Building trust and raising awareness is critical to shift the dynamic for both parties. Open, direct and respectful communication helps build trust. If you’re feeling micromanaged I would recommend highlighting to your manager what you’re noticing for example: “May I observe something. It seems like you’re lacking confidence in me to follow through when you ask me to [INSERT]. What can I do differently to give you the confidence to trust me to do these tasks independently?” This may open a discussion or this may raise their awareness leading to them being more mindful going forward. 💬 What are your experiences on either side of this? Share in the comments so we can learn from each other 📌 Please remember the advice offered in this video is generalised. You know your situation better than anyone else so trust your instincts, if this doesn’t fit your situation ignore it. You’ve got this 💪 #worktips #leadershipdevelopment #corporatelife #emotionalintelligence #manager #communication #communicationskills #micromanager #conflictmanagement
I used to work for a micromanager. I tried asking him what he needed from me for it to stop. We agreed that I should send him a weekly update on where projects are up to. Soon he started…
2024-04-12 13:37:32
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CardGameAndy :
I think many of these tips assume the other party is well intentioned
2024-05-23 22:27:57
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360gabi365 :
dealt with this for almost a year 😭😭 but it was worse than this video and she couldn’t spell. i struggled waking up in the morning
2024-05-30 12:32:04
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Khiarina :
Yes! Definitely more tips on how to handle coworkers and managers. Love it!!
2024-04-17 02:13:37
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LIGHT :
Micromanages are hell. I addressed it to HR and they basically sided with the micromanager because they were senior and baked cookies so they must be nice. All I could do was quit.
2024-04-17 11:11:28
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Calliope :
HONESTLY.. NO… I hear you, but it is EXHAUSTING trying to manage the emotions of others by editing what I say/how I say something. One shouldn’t be a manager unless they can be a good one.
2024-05-24 06:57:20
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ryanmckernan :
Worked with a micromanager for 5 weeks and decided to hand my
2024-04-12 13:28:12
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Kon 🧔🏻♂️ :
I saw managers switching from micromanaging to gaslighting. Don’t know what’s worse.
2024-04-12 16:27:08
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Féline Dion :
To the question "what can I do differently?", a micromanager would never answer "it's fine I'll leave you to it". They'd answer "do what I tell you to do, the moment I tell you to do it".
2024-04-12 18:39:05
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QT_Mom_E :
😂😂😂 *Leaves you to it by immediately sending you a new task on Teams 😂😂😂
2024-04-13 00:28:40
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Charlotte 🤘🏼 :
I left my job because of this!
2024-04-12 19:15:31
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Harriet :
my manager is like this, in my appraisal I asked him to leave me to my work and he laughed and apologised. but nothing has changed 🤦🏼♀️🤣
2024-04-12 13:09:49
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gab! :
could you do the total opposite of a micromanager? my manager cancels 1:1s, gives little to no guidance, etc.!
2024-04-14 01:27:36
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Claire | Work people tips :
Sometimes managers aren’t aware the way they are approaching things is coming across as micromanaging so open respectful communication is key 🔑
2024-04-12 13:02:08
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Sara :
I got to the point where I couldn’t even tell I was being micromanaged it was so pervasive. I just felt less and less relevant and lost self confidence.
2024-04-12 13:13:03
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Aminah Louise :
so I've done this and.....it didnt work, they became more hostile with me
2024-04-14 16:01:31
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Beth :
not me refreshing my outlook when the email sound when off in the video 🤣
2024-04-12 13:37:31
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Gabagool :
ain't no way micro manager be different being handled like that, be critical of them! make them defensive!!
2024-04-14 05:32:39
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user6304757855172 :
I feel conflicted about micromanaging. I’ve managed numerous staff members who don’t do their jobs even with more than fair timescales
I had a micro manager once. She scheduled so many meetings into my working day, it was very difficult to get anything done. We were discussing everything more than we had time to do our work.
2024-04-12 15:40:56
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user4868993006621 :
The best way to avoid being micromanaged is to leave that job. Micromanagers are deeply insecure people. They don't change.
2024-04-13 13:54:08
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cepellina :
I like your advice I do. but you tend to always advise to take on the blame. which there are other ways.
2024-04-12 13:21:37
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Karen M :
Oh I’m dealing with this now 🤦♀️It’s so frustrating!!!
2024-04-20 16:54:18
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Melis :
Can you do a video on a supervisor belittling you or making you anxious and how to report to manager please
2024-04-15 19:16:07
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So fetch :
My new manager told me everything was fine then in my 3 month review they said they hsd concerns - ive started looking
2024-04-14 22:31:08
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mynameiseelis :
a micromanager would reply to this “i don’t see any progress without my implication” mostly because they want it done right away or they want it done THEIR WAY. I think it is impossible to meet their
2024-04-15 06:15:36
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riverwerdna :
I love the way you speak probably an inappropriate comment perhaps I need retraining lol
2024-04-12 15:40:18
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John :
She’s a narcissist - you won’t win
2024-04-23 13:38:02
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kimmeek :
The absolute worse I can’t stand micromanagers! Everhone works differently and they can’t see that and want everyone to work the same way they do! Will make me leave a job instantly!
2024-04-12 13:45:59
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Steph :
I had a micro manager asked her nicely to stop, she didn’t so I had a massive blow out with her and asked to her to be removed as my manager 🤷🏻♀️
2024-07-02 12:33:52
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MaximusGluteus :
😂🤣😂 A micromanager doesn’t respond like that
2024-07-01 08:27:17
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🐸 :
why do I feel like these questions won't change their behavior
2024-05-02 00:00:17
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Gaz :
or tell them to do one and leave now they have more problems 😏
2024-04-26 06:43:34
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Kat :
How about pulling up a PowerPoint and moving boxes around and back and forth for 3 hours. Only to call someone else in to also move the same box back and forth for 1.5 hrs
2024-04-16 11:47:39
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Slothlife :
I actually don’t think it’s possible for micromanagers to change it’s a personality thing
2024-04-14 19:11:45
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FlashJordan84 :
im self employed. i could never deal with that stalker like behaviour at work 🤣🤣🤣
2024-04-13 06:30:19
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Gloria B700 :
Yup that's my mgr
2024-07-10 01:21:14
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Khutšo :
We need more on this topic
2024-07-06 14:49:24
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Sid Naeem :
Working for over 15 years, I strongly believe that some people are just not capable of working in areas that require respectful and effective communication
2024-07-03 11:55:55
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Miss money penny ✨ :
This is happening me 😞
2024-07-02 19:10:12
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NSA :
Hahah how do i send this to my manager without sending him this
2024-07-01 00:46:33
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Amy :
I’ve to do mediation with my micro manager because I have raised her management as an issue.. she became defensive and said I was the problem I 💯 complete tasks within time 😳 looking for a new job…
2024-06-27 12:49:30
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Skol2u :
How about doing one with manager who sends you an email and then runs to your office stands in the door and ask you for your response and if you read their email yet?
2024-06-21 16:54:22
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-Aroha- :
I’m so grateful my Boss is amazing ❤️
2024-05-22 20:12:15
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GeoBoleyn :
thats not micromanaging, thats giving an order as a manager and the employee not doing it right away... employee should do it asap
2024-05-11 05:43:55
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Samantha :
@Olivia who's this
2024-04-26 21:33:02
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user2711504799563 :
this is my manger. like a dog with a bone.
2024-04-26 05:03:57
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Bronwyn F. :
But then they DONT leave you to it
2024-04-18 18:20:54
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Sarai :
This is exactly my manager
2024-04-18 17:16:47
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Eve00 :
Do people actually live like this ?
2024-04-18 14:37:53
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