@cybele.pov: If you find the good ones boring, its a sign that you’ll want to do more work figuring out why #estherperel #anxious #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #datinginyour30s #relationshipproblems #secureattachment
It’s hard to tell the difference between boredom and just incompatibility
2024-04-18 19:01:04
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Louie G :
I’ve been told it’s because they are accustomed to chaos, That stability is considered boring. however, weekly dates do bring chemistry. And doing new things every week is good too.
2024-04-18 04:16:42
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loverly :
I think it’s important to analyze if they seem boring bc it’s stable, lacking drama or boring bc they’re incompatible
2024-04-18 07:43:28
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Paola Mata :
I’ve been married twice. Both good guys, but one was a ton of fun, and the other is less fun but is a way better partner. I’ll take the better partner.
2024-04-18 06:11:40
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Diatomaceous_Darrel :
She publicly held another woman accountable and asked her to respect her partner and everyone was aghast. Ester helping y’all do the work lol
2024-04-18 05:51:24
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Happy go lucky :
if a person is accustomed to chaos serenity feels hostile
2024-04-18 13:37:17
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chachazmin :
Self sabotage is too common, and the pursuit of that new relationship or pair of shoes to walk around with for awhile. Work on yourself, shadow seems to be the buzzword today, this is Jung
2024-04-18 12:15:10
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natty :
I always think this. ‘boring’ is such a subjective & self-incriminating insult, even platonically.
2024-04-18 20:54:11
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フェーク :
Reasons to get into a relationship decrease everyday
2024-04-18 20:40:38
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carrrrlz :
I think the better question to ask is if you find someone boring you’re probably not the most compatible, why are you afraid to leave/be alone? I think she meant “clip his wings” as in set him free
2024-04-20 17:10:13
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Rama C. :
ooooooofff dropped your 🎤
2024-04-22 05:16:36
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THOSCALLE :
The problem is the check boxes… ✅ you want to be healthy and you want to eat healthy but you don’t like the taste of being healthy
2024-05-08 06:38:59
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Pepper :
I don’t think people are self aware enough to make these conclusions. Some people would rather have the chaos because that’s all they know
2024-04-18 12:43:19
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Caleb - books and history :
This doesn’t necessarily work for people with ADHD someone boring is probably better but it if someone isn’t interesting we can’t do it
2024-04-18 06:16:26
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🧿 CosmicMirror ✨ :
We have to make the choice consciously rather than unconsciously. Healing attachment wounds is key. We have to stop chasing “being chosen.”
2024-04-18 11:56:55
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Brian Dunn :
Alain de Botton - we're attracted to people that make us miserable in familiar, comfortable ways (paraphrase)
2024-04-25 23:59:00
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carrrrlz :
Idk I have my best friend who I love and vibe and laugh with and then some friends who are just kinda… okay? They’re nice and I enjoy their company but we don’t laugh till we cry the same = boring
2024-04-20 05:18:29
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Boris Pash :
but connection is chemistry for me.....
2024-04-18 20:45:20
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Jess :
This was my big lesson. We often confuse chaos for chemistry if our nervous systems are wired for crisis. Chaos gives us dopamine. Stability is like vegetables. Healthy but not the dopamine of cake.
2024-04-23 20:56:54
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Psi(x) :
It’s also ok to say, I’m unique enough that there’s no one who gives me enough to compromise my current happiness and I’m happy in my peace.
2024-04-18 18:09:24
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AlexSortinoCoaching :
Lots of people addicted to stress and anxiety because their nervous system loves it
2024-04-18 22:02:09
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Coral :
It’s easier to have familiar chaos than unfamiliar happiness❤️
2024-04-18 15:09:17
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King_Crimson :
damn, I kinda realized I do this too. if I can't chase or yearn suddenly I'm not that interested.
2024-04-18 06:36:58
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