Claire Edwards
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Wednesday 24 April 2024 14:25:05 GMT
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Brittney | Biz Mentor :
I call it my “shamelessly honest with myself era”. So good to hear I’m not alone in this. I refused to wear pink. I now own 4 pink things and have a skincare system. Keep glowing up, lady!
2024-04-24 15:56:51
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katiestarke05 :
Tell me you grew up in the 90s/2000s without telling me 🙋🏼♀️
2024-04-24 16:39:26
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Taylor :
i grew up in the church and this is so so deeply ingrained from a young age 😭 thanks for talking about it claire!!
2024-04-24 15:11:49
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WhatKaitlynsReading :
This is so freaking accurate. I never realized where those thoughts originated but this hits the nail on the head.
2024-04-24 18:19:08
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shutupliz :
Yes! We were told both that we needed to be hot for our husbands but also not be vain or care about what we looked like
2024-04-24 19:04:12
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Alexa :
I was the girly girl always growing up (everything pink, hated everything the guys liked) and struggled on the other end bc of how I was perceived by other girls - love this video and your take
2024-04-24 14:50:01
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Self care goat :
Because how DARE we know it! If we act like it’s effortless, we set ourselves up for it being devalued!! 🥰
2024-04-24 18:22:43
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Jo Johnson :
This is so interesting!!!
2024-04-24 14:40:45
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Jennifer Wright :
Period 💅🏼 way to have an opinion!! (And I don’t mean that sarcastically I saw your video about trying to start having opinions again 😂)
2024-04-24 17:39:28
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Lilly_katherine :
It’s like god forbid someone see me trying 😭 I’ve definitely had these thoughts before too!
2024-04-24 21:34:53
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Chelcee :
I’m obsessed with the confidence you exude and working on gaining that!
2024-04-24 16:16:19
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Hayley Rawle :
Yes I think about this so much! Like Christianity wants hot women but god forbid if they’re TRYING to be hot
2024-04-24 20:27:27
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Nicole :
It’s so funny to see the difference in religions because I feel like in the Mormon church it’s almost encouraged to be as girly girl as possible
2024-04-24 19:13:34
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Jacy ❤️🔥 :
i used to tell myself that caring about this stuff was playing into societal beauty standards and it made me shallow. turns out moving my body, eating well and taking care of my skin just feels good!
2024-04-24 19:24:06
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tatum.hassell :
We are literally having the same exact 2nd time postpartum experience I’m not kidding
2024-04-24 15:52:40
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Heather Wilkinson :
I’ve leaned into my girly side and you’d be shocked by the comments I get. The hatred. I see all of the misogyny coming from other women and it’s frankly terrible.
2024-04-24 15:13:25
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Pancakey :
Hi Barbie!
2024-04-24 19:29:18
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Maggie Wirth :
I will say as someone raised Christian, taking care of your appearance actually is Biblical. Making it an idol is what’s wrong! But a lot of fundamentalist sects conflate the two and yes, it’s always
2024-04-24 15:01:34
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Lyddie Jane :
Definitely related. Because performing womanhood is supposed to be effortless
2024-04-24 14:57:39
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Hollie :
Soooo here for this take
2024-04-25 02:54:22
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Kerri Mathews :
Also being girly and standing out as being “too beautiful” or “too in shape” was a sin cause it was a “distraction and tripping stone” for men. Women aren’t allowed to be women because men can’thandle
2024-04-24 16:36:50
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Bosh The Dog :
Growing up Jewish I thought being a respected woman was being “made up” at all times. My postpartum journey is finding my own style and not feeling that wearing makeup is expected, it’s fun!
2024-04-24 15:49:08
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Mary Grace Whitney :
Oh wow I never realized this but I 100% think/thought this. Books also perpetuated this with the accidental heroine who didn’t realize she was stunning.
2024-04-24 15:37:47
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al :
This!!!
2024-04-24 14:34:48
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elise :
oooh please make this a series! thanks for starting these conversations💚
2024-04-24 23:41:52
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Sydnie | Travel + Fashion ✈️ :
The “sue me” got me lol
2024-04-24 22:12:09
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𝔸𝕝𝕚𝕔𝕚𝕒 ℕ𝕚𝕔𝕙𝕠𝕝𝕖💜 :
Wowww I never put these things together. I told my husband this week I’m absolutely loving this new me where I want to do skincare and my hair and makeup finding a style and unabashedly loving TSwift
2024-04-24 18:45:03
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__alynae :
You literally GET IT. I wish I could write a book about this theory….i think it also goes back to purity culture & being flirty as a girl. Like it’s more innocent to be a tomboy. 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 💯
2024-04-24 18:16:27
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__alynae :
POV: you married a post-conservative Christian homeschooler whose entire family/inner circle of women are still stuck in the residual of this mindset & they all hate you cause you’ve overcome it.
2024-04-24 18:14:44
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natalie 🧚♀️ :
thinking about it being more religious I was more pick me
2024-04-24 16:21:10
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Katie Nelson Artist :
As someone who grew up with all brothers I saw what being “one of the guys” was actually like. Hard pass lol. Girly girl for life 💗
2024-04-24 16:14:37
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luciahawley_ :
Totally--and I think there's something to tall poppy syndrome, too; maybe not religious, maybe other cultural groups (v Midwestern)
2024-04-24 16:03:14
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Bees in a suit 🐝 :
Damn this is hard to hear out loud lol but so true. Thanks for saying it!
2024-04-24 14:46:55
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morgan 🩵 :
This. But also baby boy in the background 😂
2024-04-24 14:42:18
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twigzy._o :
I’m in a male dominated field (engineer) & my coworker was sooo girly, like blinged out her stapler w/rhinestones!finally I was like YES bc GIRLY doesn’t = dumb! Femininity should be celebrated!!
2024-04-25 17:43:00
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Mia Mae :
This was also my experience with organized religion. The effortless, beautiful with no makeup, skinny without working out archetype is the pastors wife. I am in my EFFORT era
2024-04-25 02:37:22
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My Name Is Reb :
You’re blowing my mind. I grew up in a Christian household and this was exactly what was taught to us, and that any women who cared about their appearance were vain girly girls
2024-04-25 02:20:55
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Emma Kate :
Yes^^ my husband raised in this culture atmosphere… it’s been a shift for him
2024-04-24 21:28:15
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SARAAAAH :
I think this was not just in Christian circles, but it was very 90s.
2024-04-24 21:19:52
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lmead182 :
My 12 year old thinks this! Helpppp
2024-04-24 21:02:29
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ej :
I think it’s so important to remind ourselves that femininity was given to us by God! His literal perfect design for the women that He made & loves. Embrace it :)
2024-04-24 20:57:29
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Carol :
U put words to what I lived out in college 4 sure!!! Thought I had to be grungy as a christian because I was ~focused~ more on god than myself L O L
2024-04-24 20:47:39
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Heather :
I’m gonna have to think about that effortless beauty part.
2024-04-24 20:35:48
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Rachel Corvin :
YEP! I used to not wear dresses for the same reason.
2024-04-24 16:39:13
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Kerri Mathews :
Can’t stand out cause it takes away glory from god and men
2024-04-24 16:37:56
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taylor :
yes!!!!!!!
2024-04-24 16:05:04
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Alex Quarles :
Yesss it’s the “trying too hard is unattractive” mindset that has wrecked me!
2024-04-24 16:04:54
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Mary Grace Whitney :
@Kate Kennedy this is so interesting!!
2024-04-24 15:38:16
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