@natashavctoria: It’s common for a DA to want to please you out of guilt/shame. So they may show up as the person they THINK they SHOULD be. This is to their detriment, because acting out of guilt creates more guilt and acting out of shame creates more shame. This act of self abandonment creates a trapped feeling and a further disconnection from self. #fyp #foryou #foryoupage #attachmentstyle #attachmenttheory #therapytok #fearfulavoidant #dating #anxiousattachmentstyle #avoidant #avoidantattachmentstyles #healing #therapy
How were you at the early stages of a relationship, the avoidant I dated entered full force, acted like he wanted commitment and actually showed up which made me trust him until he didn’t… 1/2
2024-05-04 20:58:17
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Mel Bel :
I got called needy for suggesting we do a regular phone call since it was long distance
2024-05-04 12:36:21
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Re :
Tried asking. Got nothing. He couldn’t put it into words. He said his actions should tell me
2024-05-02 16:33:22
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🌈AbbyNormal65🌈 :
I tried and tried to get her to talk but ended up having to walk away
2024-05-01 18:48:18
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Name Here :
this is my bf for sure. I ask if he wants to do things. I double check. he says yes. then afterwards, even if he had a good time, he will guilt me about it after. because he did it "for me"
2024-05-04 21:38:29
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Madicarpediam :
I really want to thank you for this video. I don’t know why not your other videos but this video made me realize the things that are happening in my life but I could not understand the logic.
2024-05-01 19:10:21
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user92740174028 :
Yes he kept gaslighting me saying things he knew would please me but wasn’t honest to himself (like being ready for steps he wasn’t) and then it led to disaster bc he’d take it away and cause me to
2024-05-15 03:45:31
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Madison :
Is sending this to my avoidant ex too much
2024-05-09 13:26:42
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Irie :
What if you’ve already done that and created that safety for them and they still feel trapped or push you away?
2024-05-02 00:02:41
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karissapierce592 :
I kinda do this with him. I try and get him to talk about things. And when he expresses a different want than what I have I try and find compromises. And tell him I don't him to feel pressured.
2024-05-01 20:32:25
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MoonRonin :
When I wanted to talk things out she got defensive and mean. When she felt blamed she insisted on telling me her views and demands, like an ultimatum.
2024-05-19 16:25:37
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Ghouls :
How about wanting “space”? I’m FA but my ex is DA! He thinks he’ll find someone that he “doesn’t need space from”
2024-05-05 00:08:12
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Life with Los :
Very helpful.
2024-05-01 19:09:27
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Wassdis :
Yet when I try to talk and communicate the responses are ‘ I don’t know what I want ‘ ‘I don’t know how to reply’
2024-05-05 02:57:01
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B 🐝✨ :
Okay pretty eyes
2024-05-01 23:58:47
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Jenay Ward :
Would “I feel smothered” be the same kinda thing
2024-05-02 00:02:19
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AlyssaEverheart :
Mine won’t even talk lol. He literally misses everything and just says “I don’t care” or “it’s no big deal” even when I care tell he’s in pain…
2024-05-02 02:08:49
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Kiriat :
The illusion of connection … this!
2024-05-01 20:00:30
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kriys :
the sad fact is tht j just realized it all now...that hes an avoidant...i shouldve known better to understand him more...cuz at the end of the day..he is still human whos in need🥺
2024-07-11 13:41:03
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ChefVonee :
I tried to do that but they chose to build more walls and push me further away and ended things to avoid talking about anything
2024-05-03 04:42:31
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coffeebabe_98 :
Show up for you the way the show up for themselves...that's sad 😪
2024-05-01 22:12:29
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NTM :
He has been working on himself. I'll give him time ❤
2024-05-02 23:33:51
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bimonzbee :
Thanks for sharing. I literally in the middle of relationship with the DA. I tried so hard to understand and handle this every single day. I feel pain too!!
2024-05-07 15:33:48
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Alanoud :
Unfortunately not all of them wants to speak their needs even though you give them the opportunity to understand their feelings
2024-06-12 14:13:28
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