@dumptruckdee: Lil vulnerable post but i always thought this would go to the grave with me. I never told anyone while it was happening just hoped it would get better. When i talk about my boyfriend now I truly do mean every word i say. He showed me to be loved is to be changed & that simple gentle love was all i needed. He teaches me to speak up for myself, set bounderies, and most importatly not change for anyone. Four years ago this was my life and I am so beyond happy of the person i am today.