csmijango
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Jaime Belle 🍂 :
Even if they don’t get the reference, if they respond in a way that shows me they want to learn about it, or at LEAST in a nonjudgmental way, I know we are compatible!
2024-05-22 23:28:24
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lunarhexagon :
I LOVE it when I make an obscure or niche reference to someone new and they get it. I’m then like “did we just become best friends?”
2024-05-23 04:33:16
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Hannah :
I think sometimes you can not know the reference someone made and still pass the vibe check by asking questions. Like 'I don't have knowledge on this topic but I'm inviting you to talk about it more anyway because I'm willing to learn about it." And eventually you'll find common ground between your interests and something within or connected to that topic.
2024-06-07 18:51:51
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Zaļā Vārna :
aaaaaaaah..... this explains a lot and this is heartbreaking. My last therapist was allistic and her impressions of me were EXACTLY what you described... I was perceived narcissistic.
2024-05-23 05:50:02
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Ley :
"FUN FACT!" is what I am most known for. I will tell you some random facts about my favorite things when I'm trying to make conversation.
2024-05-29 02:44:34
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changingable beast :
My thoughts halfway through this video: for me, it's not just a vibe check on shared topics/references. It is also a vibe check on whether they can ask questions in a cooperative way.
2024-05-23 14:16:29
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Ani Moller: AuDHD Coach :
Slight tangent but I’ve noticed a difference in how my PDA clients do small talk. I haven’t fully formed a hypothesis but I’m definitely noticing it
2024-05-23 11:46:33
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exquisite_tia :
it's interesting to learn this. my mom is autistic and ADHD. her father likely was too. being raised by her was hard as someone who isn't autistic or ADHD. she had to justify why she needed what she
2024-05-24 13:01:52
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Morgan✨ :
I find information exchange so so meaningful, but also scary due to the massive amounts of rejection I’ve faced from NTs
2024-05-23 00:09:29
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RogueOfDreams :
I just realized why no one finds my Cards Against Humanity submissions funny 0_0 I'm going full in with DC quote level niches 😅
2024-05-23 00:12:37
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Aliyah Anderson :
omg okay hearing the weather small talk as the end of the road, least personal small talk/intro just made something click for me
2024-05-22 23:46:12
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zum :
U are my fave creator for this series omg also would luv the unconditional positive regard reference
2024-05-23 00:55:36
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Asha (づ｡✿◕‿‿◕｡)づ :
I love you so much for making this video as someone with ADHD with mostly autistic friends please say more about adhd types?
2024-05-22 22:36:50
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disgracednerdfighter 🍉 :
i think it has to be information based for me bc i do not TRUST body language and tone to tell me how safe i am w them. i have to do a test on their behavior and engagement w me on a genuine level
2024-05-23 02:40:33
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The Articulate Autistic :
“Screening compatibility through information.” I love it! That’s exactly what I do, but I never knew what it was called!
2024-05-23 09:33:31
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emmafry596 :
Something interesting I learned about this is that ballistic people can view me as being egocentric for not caring how I'm being overly intimate, when in reality it's not me choosing to disregard
2024-05-24 13:17:12
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Haunted Bog Water :
I didnt realize how literally and often I use references as a way to check for compatibility until this!
2024-05-23 13:58:02
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litostris :
10th grade, 1st day of chemistry, i made a breaking bad reference. a girl asked if it was a bb reference and i was like yeah. she picked up her stuff and sat next to me. bffs for over a decade now 🥲
2024-05-28 10:32:15
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ooola :
(dont know if this is autism or neurodivergence) Is it okay to say that i personally just care about the information only? And if when i meet that person again I'll just tell the info back from the first time.
2024-05-24 19:36:37
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klaudya :
I just made a new friend at work (I think? I hope?) bc I mentioned Chappell Roan & we now burst out singing CR every time we cross paths. No idea if she’s ND but she happily accepted CR Facts 🙏😂
2024-06-18 03:11:25
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csmijango :
Oh shoot i forgot to add play time. Vid length: 9:40ish. Small talk switch into application in cross-neurotype connections is around 5:40
2024-05-22 22:19:30
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🌿Quinn🌿 (they/them) :
Wait, you have a joke about unconditional positive regard?!? ✨💖✨
2024-05-22 23:51:05
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lennie :
having ADHD makes me feel like I straddle the line between autistic and allistic communication. Allistic communication is easier when I'm already emotionally regulated
2024-05-23 00:36:36
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mel.writes.things :
I’ve made really strong connections with other autistic people that I didn’t have many common interests with by expressing genuine interest in learning about theirs, does that also fit in this model?
2024-05-23 23:53:34
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