Same!!! I completely stopped taking care of my self to attend to all of his needs
2024-05-31 21:41:08
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Hayley :
Going thru breakup rn & looking back there were so many fights that wouldn’t have been a fight had I had my own life & own hobbies/friends. I see how much pressure it put on him to make me happy.
2024-06-02 23:42:52
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mari k. :
I agree cause he says I'm stressful I'm just about to leave for his sake idk how to get secure and everyone has left me because I got bored or they found someone new. please help cause I'll be alone forever if I don't fix this😭🙏
2024-06-20 03:17:44
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Chicago Esthetician :
I agree with this!!!! As women we need our own lives that include friendships, self care and just doing our thing that our partners dont feel smothered.
2024-06-04 01:08:06
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Liv <33 :
Idk how to do that tho
2024-05-31 15:41:35
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seasonsgreetings69 :
A true avoidant just let's you go off and do you and the whole relationship becomes distant and avoidant. Only if they do the work to can you make it work.
2024-06-02 23:10:38
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Sarah Nicole :
I've been single for 14 years, just started seeing someone I really like and noticed anxious attachment happening so immediately got a therapist and signed up for a bunch of hobbies to fill my time
2024-06-20 04:56:25
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Narcoleptic Siren :
I’m with an avoidant and he loves me more now that I focus on myself. I had to pull back my energy BIG TIME.
2024-06-23 03:06:49
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adriannnnnnnnnnnn :
I found out the girl im talking to was previously in a relationship of 5ish years. They broke up little ovr a year ago. Shes distant bcuz i know she doesnt want to be hurt again. What should i do?
2024-06-01 01:36:49
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Robertjansen.r :
how do you deal with this tho? cuz i wanna spend all my time with her cuz i enjoy it so much
2024-07-16 11:52:19
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𝘙 𝘰 𝘰 𝘯 𓂆 :
I think I’m healing. I thought about having my own life and hobbies, and it didn’t feel threatening.
2024-08-02 23:16:30
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Spartan_1047 :
I'm not a woman but yea I'm struggling with this now
2024-08-12 16:11:35
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yuluvaaa :
when I start getting distant and step away from being anxious he tells me i’m taking him for granted. then when i’m anxious i’m suffocating so I don’t get it
2024-07-24 00:42:42
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JahNet🧿 :
HELLA AGREE❤️❤️❤️JUST U WATCH!! Gonna work on myself to make them THIRST🔥✨❤️
2024-07-03 15:49:23
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Lucky :
%1000 agree. This was my marriage also, but we're getting better every day now
2024-06-19 02:02:42
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Hope🏳️⚧️ :
The whole point of dating is to spend time with somebody else, if I wanted to spend more time with myself, I wouldn't be dating
2024-07-06 14:40:04
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Lexi Davies🤪 :
I feel like this also needs to be on his fyp because i have a hard time explaining why im a certain way.
2024-07-02 16:01:51
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Jamie Downs :
I was forced to . Now stuck, almost 3 years later, trying to draw boundaries including as a step mom & having NO time for myself …. I’m stuck because I’m a bad guy for doing so…
2024-06-18 21:09:35
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Blah :
TY
2024-07-02 10:52:50
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Ashley :
What’s your advice when an anxious only realizes they’re anxious after their avoidant officially breaks things off?
2024-05-31 17:56:57
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Lost Soja :
So true! I stopped working out and stopped taking care of myself because I was so focused on US and he interpreted it as if I had let myself go and then left me 🙃
2024-08-04 15:04:36
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user4749489911289 :
Ive done that too we broke up cuz she fearful attachment i think this is good for me and work on me
2024-05-31 20:38:05
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Obfuscation :
Can we stop just feminising anxious attachers? Men get anxious attachment too and don't deserve to be made to feel "feminine" because of it.
2024-06-02 21:26:53
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ThatsANoFromMeDawg :
Ok but how do we do this when we’re a SAHM with 3 kids, two of which are extremely young and not independent at all. These kids take ALL my time & I’m so tired when I get free time
2024-06-03 19:41:08
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