LET’S CLEAR THIS UP… I’m not single or childfree by choice. Actually childfree is by choice because I could go and get pregnant with someone I don’t want a relationship and with whom I can’t create the life I want with or have IFV with a sperm donor and be a single parent but right now I don’t feel like that’s what I want but my mind may change. Full transparency I had a miscarriage last year from a situation just like the aforementioned and I planned on keeping the child despite it not being how I wanted things to be. It wasn’t a plan or the plan, it was a curve ball because life has lots of those and that’s ok. I can’t force a relationship. I can’t make or magic up the guy with whom I feel I can create a life with and a happy, healthy, committed relationship with, that one is out of my control and for the most part I have accepted that. Of course there’s the odd day where I feel like I should/could do more but in general I’m good. I want a partner. Someone who’s a good and healthy communicator, someone who understand & knows themselves, is emotionally available and mature, someone who is willing to do their fare share of household chores and not expect me to do it all because ‘you’re a woman’. Someone who wants to look after and nurture me just as much as I want to them. Nurture, balance, fun and mutual respect. Any less will not do because it will make me unhappy. My happiness, joy and peace of mind matters to me. I have been in a relationship where I’m doing 90% of all the household chores, working full time and still trying to nurture and support my partner without getting the same back. In fact everyone women I know has been or is in a relationship like this. I WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN! When I was unhappy and lacking self love I settled and craved male attention because I was looking for an external fix to an internal problem. Now I’m enjoying myself and my life so the only way I’ll allow someone to be part of it is if we can add to each other and make our lives even better. My choice is simply not to settle in a relationship that doesn’t make me happy which to makes perfect sense. #datingadviceforwomen #datingtipsforwomen #datinglife #empoweredwomen #singlelife - @clairahermet