Steph the Attachment Professor
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Wednesday 05 June 2024 02:40:38 GMT
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early_birb :
So thiiiiis is why, whenever I had big feelings, my job was to feel my mother's feelings ABOUT my feeling for her so she could distance from them, and then comfort her.
2024-06-05 17:27:36
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cool girl :
Steph what does toxic positivity look like in a parent-child relationship? Could you talk a little more about how it shows up/affects?
2024-08-21 14:56:51
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JB :
omg this is my grandmother to a T. my mother ended up in a narcissistically abusive relationship and developed agoraphobia 🫠
2024-06-05 02:47:02
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Stefanie 📚 🖤 📝 :
I’m in therapy for CPTSD and I have such a hard time accepting it because I wasn’t ever physically harmed. This is really enlightening, thank you ❤️
2024-06-06 15:50:45
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Marzipan Pig :
3. Yelling at the child and punishing them for not being able to control their feelings. For me it was always this
2024-08-09 11:10:02
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Alex :
I’m a crier, I cry when I’m happy/sad/mad. So many memories of my gran who raised me saying she couldn’t handle me when I was like this and walking away until I “controlled myself” 🙃
2024-06-05 06:06:46
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Piper :
Ugh. It’s so invisible to others too. Everyone around her thought she was a great mom & always dismissed my complaints about her. So it was a double wammy of invalidation.
2024-06-16 20:31:59
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Nicoleeoli :
oh gosh this makes so much sense. I learned to hide all my emotions and even personal information from my Mom, not because she didn't care, but because her responses were way too intense to handle.
2024-08-13 23:41:06
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Mona Lacey Play :
My dad is like an emotional devils advocate and it’s SO deeply draining. It was a burden lifted when I realized that I can’t fix him. All I can do is do better for myself ❤️🩹
2024-06-05 03:54:25
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Valérie♋️ :
So how do we heal that wound ?? I got no validation or help from either parent
2024-06-05 03:01:37
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Bella 💕 :
Wow. This is my mother, very well said and broken down
2024-06-05 04:02:12
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Fyodor Soikin :
How can I recognize if I'm doing this?
2024-06-05 03:47:32
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brandyyynichole :
This!! Watching my ex confuse his presence for connection and continually invalidating the kids is so heartbreaking!
2024-06-05 03:01:44
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🦉 :
I grew up with a mother going on rants about how I'm ungrateful and unappreciative whenever I tried to voice a concern or feeling. 1/2
2024-07-25 21:57:04
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Priscilla Plum 🐰 :
This is so important to hear.
2024-06-05 03:11:29
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Nina li :
I have never heard this verbalized so well before. I struggled so much because my mom’s situation is so hard to put into words and it’s so covert. Thank you.
2024-06-05 15:46:45
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g. :
Is there a term for a parent who’s present but doesn’t take interest in your life personally unless it’s to critique or discipline? They only talk about third party things or themselves.
2025-01-02 15:10:47
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gsoop1348 :
My parents were at everything and then spent the drive home telling us how we could have been better. Like thanks for coming I guess???
2024-06-06 21:45:00
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Dan Smith :
I am at a loss for words. You have put voice to something that I have ignored for 30 years.
2024-06-05 12:55:10
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scrammbled_eggs :
where can I find the session bill?
2024-06-12 23:24:47
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RichieB560 :
Q: How would you define asking fir a ride to hospital because you can't drive, then they arrive two hours later with food from Supermarket? 😑
2024-06-05 03:18:44
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Dr. Angelica Shiels :
You’re my favorite account hands down. I can stop posting now because you are saying it better.🤪
2024-06-05 11:52:25
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Erica8312 :
Interesting! Can you give some examples of this at different ages?
2024-06-05 03:41:04
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Dannyekko.cos :
that is definitely my mother. overly controlling helicopter parent but, never actually formed a connection with me
2024-06-07 06:39:00
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