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beautiful woman right there
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I’ll tell it in the form of a story: During my divorce, I swam regularly. It was my catharsis. I was often at the club at the same time as an older married man who was extremely friendly. It was always nice to see each other, and we made small talk, chatted, or joked as we crossed paths at times between the pool, the hot tub, and the sauna.  One day, as we casually chit-chatted in the pool, he suddenly got serious. Out of absolutely nowhere he said directly to me: “I want to say something. I would never cheat on my wife. I want to be clear so you don’t get the wrong idea.” Even though our interactions were never even close to inappropriate, I was a young woman, he was an outgoing man, with our constant schedule overlaps, at a resort where there were hotel rooms aplenty, in our bathing suits. He always came alone, since it was his cathartic time, too.  Even though I was very intentional about my own boundaries, he called out that there were no uncertain terms for him.  I’ve never forgotten that because it took me by surprise and also gave me respect for him. Perhaps he was saying it as much for himself as he was for me. Perhaps not. But I used to do the same in my marriage. When I believed anyone was dancing around the edges with me, I got very clear with them.  “This is how YOU prevent infidelity.” Because the only person you can prevent from being unfaithful is YOURSELF. We can’t ensure fidelity from another person. We can’t affair-proof our marriages. We can’t guarantee that our partner won’t cheat.  But we can be that person who moves through the world under no uncertain terms. It frees us to be friendly, to connect and interact, while trusting ourselves to be confident enough to draw a line if someone else gets confused.  It’s OUR job to protect our relationship.  Ridiculously simple? Not so. We exist in the world with complex and unconscious parts of ourselves that are often running the show. We exist in dynamics that blur lines or leave us vulnerable. It becomes a decision we have to make repeatedly in our lives. If you’ve already crossed the boundary, click the link in my bio for supportive courses to help you NOW.
I’ll tell it in the form of a story: During my divorce, I swam regularly. It was my catharsis. I was often at the club at the same time as an older married man who was extremely friendly. It was always nice to see each other, and we made small talk, chatted, or joked as we crossed paths at times between the pool, the hot tub, and the sauna. One day, as we casually chit-chatted in the pool, he suddenly got serious. Out of absolutely nowhere he said directly to me: “I want to say something. I would never cheat on my wife. I want to be clear so you don’t get the wrong idea.” Even though our interactions were never even close to inappropriate, I was a young woman, he was an outgoing man, with our constant schedule overlaps, at a resort where there were hotel rooms aplenty, in our bathing suits. He always came alone, since it was his cathartic time, too. Even though I was very intentional about my own boundaries, he called out that there were no uncertain terms for him. I’ve never forgotten that because it took me by surprise and also gave me respect for him. Perhaps he was saying it as much for himself as he was for me. Perhaps not. But I used to do the same in my marriage. When I believed anyone was dancing around the edges with me, I got very clear with them. “This is how YOU prevent infidelity.” Because the only person you can prevent from being unfaithful is YOURSELF. We can’t ensure fidelity from another person. We can’t affair-proof our marriages. We can’t guarantee that our partner won’t cheat. But we can be that person who moves through the world under no uncertain terms. It frees us to be friendly, to connect and interact, while trusting ourselves to be confident enough to draw a line if someone else gets confused. It’s OUR job to protect our relationship. Ridiculously simple? Not so. We exist in the world with complex and unconscious parts of ourselves that are often running the show. We exist in dynamics that blur lines or leave us vulnerable. It becomes a decision we have to make repeatedly in our lives. If you’ve already crossed the boundary, click the link in my bio for supportive courses to help you NOW.

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