@stephanne221: To any parent who may watch this: thank you so much for taking your time to watch this video. It is not easy to receive feedback, especially when it involves such a painful relationship dynamic like the disconnect between a parent and a child. I share this information in an effort to support your reconciliation and connection with your child. In the same way that your GPS lets you know that you’re going down a road that has a dead end, I want you to know that this path of an apology list is not going to lead to the connection that you are seeking with your child. The good news is that there is another path to lead you to where you want to go. The reality of this path though is that it is scarier and harder. It’s also not somethinf that you have to go alone, and if you choose to, you can allow yourself to accept help from others who can help you tolerate the difficulty of this road a bit better. You do not have to do this alone and you do not have to continue to live in this painful disconnection with your child when they have invited you to family therapy. use the resources that you have available. you are worthy of being supported, and the connection that you seek with your child is possible as long as they are still asking for it. ##estrangedparents##estranged##nocontact##emotionalimmaturity##childhoodtrauma##selfgrowth##parents##parenting##conflict##communication##HealingJourney##children##relationships##Relationship##mentalhealthmatters##therapy##therapytok##therapistsontiktok##familytherapy##fyp##foryou
Lots of parents of adult kids in therapy seem to think that working through the past is somehow a personal attack. It’s sad, because they so need the healing, too.
2024-06-27 06:17:14
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katokraftsstudio :
As soon as I set some boundaries, my mom pulled the “walking on eggshells” card, I almost responded with, “welcome to my entire life experience!”
2024-06-27 19:47:17
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✨The Y’allest Hobbit✨ :
How do I send this to my dad without sending this to my dad?
2024-06-27 04:35:09
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user1904345282811 :
I am terrified of suggesting therapy because my dad is high verbal IQ and is very good at weaponizing therapy speak and coming off as the victim
2024-06-27 14:37:07
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Carolyn Mason :
Boomer here- been in therapy for about 3 years. I had no idea that I was the problem. Changing those habits takes time and work. Our relationship is getting better and better.
2024-06-27 14:28:24
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Zebeyana :
what does a parent do whet they KNOW they failed their child but are not in family therapy? basically I'm asking, how do I gain her trust?
2024-06-28 04:33:20
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Rachel Morochnik :
We once tried family therapy and the therapist took my parents side on a really toxic perspective and berated me. Been a little terrified of going back ever since but would love something that works.
2024-08-14 14:32:22
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sara21967 :
GenX mom here in therapy 2 years, my mom gone 5yrs, so much to unpack, work is hard, can't imagine going to therapy with my young adult kids if I hadn't started doing my own work first
2024-06-30 19:22:41
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buxton1 :
What do you recommend if you say "I don't want to continue our relationship until we get therapy" and they refuse therapy, but then go blame you as to why you won't speak to them anymore?
2024-06-28 23:56:54
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HipboneHamCat :
what states do you practice in?
2024-06-27 02:36:45
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Jordan Elizabeth :
Can you please be our therapist?! 😭
2024-06-27 12:01:13
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thebigbananna :
I'm constantly afraid of what I'm gonna do unintentionally to my own children 😥
2024-06-27 23:03:29
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T :
my mom is very offended by my list
2024-06-27 10:24:11
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Emily Ward :
EVEN IF YOU NEVER INTENDED TO HURT THEM—yes! My parents couldn’t do that for me, but I’ve already told my teens that I make mistakes. I’m happy to take responsibility for their hurt, no matter what.
2024-06-27 17:32:50
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blvndbrvt :
My mom is a covert narc and i have younger siblings. She agreed to therapy but i highly doubt anything will change but at least my siblings will see im holding her accountable for the first time ever
2024-06-27 10:15:05
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Morgan :
the entire family agrees she’ll never be willing to do the work ahaha 🙃
2024-07-01 23:26:15
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Vynnella :
I wish my parents would go to therapy. Alas, they repeatedly refuse…
2024-06-28 01:16:06
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Í :
Do you have any experience with/offer DBT?
2024-06-27 03:06:11
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Supper-Clubbing :
It’s so true about not getting it from our parents. That seems to be a common excuse for not doing the work with our children.That excuse doesn’t lead restoring a relationship
2024-06-27 12:13:27
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WhereTheWildThingsAre🇨🇦 :
I don’t like who my parents are as individuals. Period. They are self centered and cruel (not just to me. To others in general) I don’t feel it’s my place to get them to be better people. If they can’t see it for themselves and heal it… I’ll be over here. No contact.
2024-08-14 22:01:40
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FidgetNewton :
The final straw for my daughter was me asking her to sit down with her therapist together. So I don’t think family therapy is going to work for us.
2024-07-20 22:45:56
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Sean :
My mom thinks she did nothing wrong and I don’t ever see her doing this. She’s self centered and my experience is not even remotely important to her
2024-07-07 15:10:55
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kawic10 :
I really wish my mom and wife could find healing from a painful moment from my brother’s wedding 11 years ago.
2024-06-27 03:21:10
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