Dr. Angelica Shiels
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Friday 26 July 2024 18:17:16 GMT
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Shea Tatum :
Any advice on how to sit with them in dysregulation without automatically disassociating? It’s automatic for me and my kids are starting to call me out on it.
2024-07-26 21:36:22
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Jenna :
"there's nothing fancy about the repair".....except their dysregulation makes me want to crawl out of my skin😂 Just sitting in it with them is the hardest thing for me!
2024-07-26 19:19:53
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Chrissy IA :
What was this training? I’m a therapist and would love more training on this.
2024-07-26 20:11:48
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ManoDeFatima70 :
Can you give examples of this? Specifically, co-regulating the misattunement “without accomodating it”. I understand not escalating or trying to change it.
2024-07-26 20:35:19
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Jamie McLaughlin :
what about neurodivergent kids
2024-07-30 17:45:37
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user341061916373 :
Also explains why my exhusband has no tolerance for the distress. His mother is a frantic “fixer” 😬
2024-07-26 23:58:52
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StateofMind :
Any advice on how to handle separation anxiety at daycare drop off in the mornings? Like, am I supposed to just sit there and they’ll eventually calm down and let me leave? I feel so bad leaving!
2024-07-29 22:21:50
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cdamo24 :
oh wow this is so valuable
2024-07-29 20:46:34
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Gabby :
I think you might’ve just changed my life with this. I feel so much better as a mom.
2024-07-29 13:02:01
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j_k_d__ :
Children are amazing
2024-07-30 15:50:27
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Sarah :
What does it really mean to sit with them in it. If my toddler is having a meltdown, what do I do to be there for them in the moment?
2024-07-31 21:22:02
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pbodyandatlas :
This was communicated in a way where I can understand. And I agree, this would have helped me as a child. Now I can do this 1/3rd for my sons
2024-08-01 16:39:18
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Lyssa Ewing :
I want to sit with my daughter so badwhen she’s in this fight/flight mode but she starts to hit and kick and gets more overstimulated and angry when I stay in the room with her. What can I do?
2024-07-31 14:45:45
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Taylorvalle :
😭😭😭 this makes me feel so much better. Parenting can be so hard and I’m constantly feeling like a failure.
2024-07-26 20:25:05
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Lalas.Lapidation :
Yes! I was just thinking tonight about how there were so many times as a kid where I just needed someone to hug and sit with me. It would have made a world of difference.
2024-07-28 06:20:16
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applesnoranges5 :
My thought when I do this is “he has to learn to sit with discomfort” which is probably a thing I learned from you but I sit and hug him if he wants or sit next time him until he is ready.
2024-07-26 21:46:15
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SupportPath Therapy :
Great explanation!!! This definitely speaks to parent guilt.
2024-07-26 19:50:46
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involuntary sphincter :
Omg yay! I literally repeat “do less.” In my head when my toddler melts down. I just wait. Then I ask her to tell me her emotion as she’s calming down. That’s it.
2024-07-27 02:21:40
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Mildred :
ack I always try to accommodate and I think I figured something out about why my middle school aged kiddo always "needs" me 😬
2024-07-26 21:05:01
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jenn_xennial :
Or seeing the parent having a distressing feeling and processing it? Sometimes I feel like my audhd upset happen too often. Trying to regulate in real time is hard.
2024-07-26 18:24:38
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mcchceollsleuam :
you're an angel for helping the relationship of parents and children, such important work 😭
2024-07-26 19:20:26
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actually_a_karen :
This is amazing and makes me feel so validated! I do big pick-up hugs & rock & wait for a sigh or a yawn 🥰 often I don’t know what to say anyways 😅
2024-07-27 01:37:49
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heatherandree :
My Audhd kiddo only wants space when distegulated, he gets more upset when I try to sit with him of offer comfort. I give him space, he regulates alone. Do you see that as a problem?
2024-07-27 19:12:47
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caviarandcannabis :
Yes. This makes so much sense! You have to be able to control your own emotions and they need to be taught how to. Love this!!
2024-07-26 18:40:40
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emzsanders :
Does being attunded mean you’re wholly focused on the child? Or can you be doing something (like cleaning) while checking in/making eye contact? Sometimes I find my full focus makes it worse…
2024-07-26 18:28:32
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