@mindfullyready: I wasted years chasing the love of difficult people until I found the most important love of all—my own. Childhood trauma can shape our relationships in ways we don’t realize. #divorce #relationships #HealingJourney
Trauma makes us try to convince someone to treat us right instead of setting boundaries and walking away. We take it personally like it’s because of us that they treat us bad instead of seeing -
2024-08-20 04:21:44
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sherimartin948 :
Wow, explains my entire life.
2024-08-20 01:37:35
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Caleb 📚 :
Literally just watched the same interview with Dr Ramani…😳🙃
2024-08-20 02:59:22
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Hannah 💙🏳️⚧️💙🏳️🌈💙 :
I saw that too. I have been working through my traumas and am now divorcing my husband. He hasn't changed but what I now tolerate sure has.
2024-08-20 02:22:51
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ritareadysetgo :
the real kicker is if they decided to be good to you...what have you won? the love of a difficult person? this idea made me 😭 there is no real win with these types of ppl
2024-08-25 18:06:08
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beezer62583 :
This app is just making me sad while also shining lights. I’m not sure I’m ready for this truth 🥺
2024-08-20 05:13:08
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bignasty479 :
you just described my wife of 17 years. I started therapy a week ago. I have anger issues. also ADHD so..... yea. I want to be good to her. gotta put in the work
2024-08-20 03:50:18
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Melissa Geeeeeee :
Oh wow. That hot home.
2024-08-23 16:32:44
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MadisonMoody1975 :
Fighting to win their love maybe because we always hoped to change a parent we didn’t feel it from but never completed the task so we gravitate toward similar personalities & treatment unaware we are
2024-08-20 07:32:38
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user49911716467163 :
Wishing TikTok had arrived 30 years earlier instead of learning, this lesson the hard way
2024-08-25 16:19:41
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Danielle Tudor :
Omg so true. Forever chasing the unavailable man. So sad. It’s to continue proving to ourselves that we are unlovable.
2024-08-21 22:38:43
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MsRieRie❣️ :
Growing up in trauma and healing is the hardest ball to unravel. Learning to leave those who don’t value us, or make us feel safe and secure as soon as we clock it is vital.
2024-08-22 00:38:29
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Jen Lee :
This makes sense. I chased this until my dad took his last breath.
2024-08-20 02:02:48
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Belle🧍🏻♀️ and Beast🐺 fan :
What was the interview?
2024-08-20 02:20:16
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Rachel Walker :
I JUST had this conversation with my mom about the fact that I’m almost 50 and I’m STILL dealing with the same issues I did back in childhood BUT it’s way worse b/c now I just question my own sanity.
2024-09-02 19:02:49
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Gracee :
You will never be enough for the wrong people 💯if they are difficult they are not your person. If the eyes don’t light up around them when they see you they aren’t for you ♥️🙏💯
2024-08-20 03:35:17
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Jenna :
Yup, trying to fix the parental attachment wound through literally everyone else in our lives.
2024-08-20 05:51:03
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J :
Well that's certainly accurate
2024-08-20 01:29:44
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shannonevenstad :
Yesssss
2024-09-27 20:53:52
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Lyfe {Taylor’s version} :
This is exactly why I had to walk away and go no contact with my family. A decision I never wanted to make, but I finally chose myself and I was never going to heal in a toxic family system. I'm 4 years in and reparenting myself and the haze has started to lift
2024-08-20 06:08:57
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Kels :
It makes total sense. 😭 I am learning to choose being good to me over THAT any day.
2024-08-20 02:00:07
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