@narcsurvivoradvocate: The night could end with one look. A smirk. And I knew I had done or said something that upset him. But the mask hardly ever slipped when people were around…and this definitely made me feel like I was the problem! He doesn’t lose it with his friends…he doesn’t scream at his boss…he keeps it together and is polite and even respectful. So what am I doing wrong that causes him to react this way to me? But no…he was protecting his reputation because he KNEW the way he treated me was wrong. They know. So regardless of the excuses or fake claims of being oblivious…they know they are hurting you.