@missclairebenjamin: 🚨Handling the “needy” one👇 When you’re managing someone and it feels like they aren’t showing initiative and come to you looking for support with what seems like every little thing it can start to feel exhausting and draining. Everyone is different and some people need more reassurance and support to feel confident in their own decision making. It’s hard not to get frustrated & criticise but it’s important to try and avoid this and instead try a different approach to help shift the dynamic. As managers sometimes we unintentionally contribute to the dynamic because when our team member comes to us with a problem we tell them the answer instead of helping them become more confident problem solving independently. Whilst this is well intended it can mean that they do not develop their own problem solving skills. I’d recommend using a coaching approach to build their confidence and help them feel safe making decisions more autonomously. This may also require you to release some control which can take practice. These are both powerful questions: 1️⃣ What do you think would be a good approach? 2️⃣ How did you approach a situation similar to this in the past? Be sure to encourage their self- belief and keep a watch on your own desire to always tell them the answers. Over time you should start to see a shift in their confidence. 📌 Please remember the advice offered in this video is generalised and will not fit every situation. Therefore please use your own judgement when using this advice and adapt it to suit your situation. You’ve got this 💪 💬 Have you ever been on either side of this situation? Share your experiences in the comments 👀 💾 Save this for when you might need it ✈️ Share with someone who this could help 🚀 Follow for more tips on handling tricky situations at work #worktips #leadershipdevelopment #corporatelife #emotionalintelligence #communicationskills #difficultconversations #managingpeople #manager #managertips #difficultpeople
Tbh I’ve only become like this when I have had controlling managers, as they’ve shaken my confidence and they’ve nit picked my work
2024-09-03 06:24:13
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Richard Batchelor - :
It’s me, hi I’m the needy one lol, I just don’t want to mess something up and get in trouble for it. I got bills to pay haha
2024-09-03 11:17:45
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jg2251 :
I wouldn't classify myself as needy. When you have been degraded, controlled, and criticized, it's hard to trust your instincts.
2024-09-03 16:37:12
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Allie🌻 :
If I did it on my own initiative she would say I should have asked, if I asked she would say I should have shown initiative. I gave up
2024-10-10 12:58:34
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Gemma :
I’m the “needy” one - we’re both learning how adhd and the corporate world can work. I need clear instruction as my initiative can give me 500 scenarios without guidance or an example to work from
2024-09-02 21:01:56
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edwina_123 :
The needy ones drive me bananas.
2024-09-02 18:32:59
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Dian ♥️ :
In my these toes of situations arise due to lack of adequate training material. Sometimes i think managers gatekeep this stuff too
2024-09-02 23:01:01
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tjnorton198144🇨🇦 :
This is a very helpful video for those who are dealing with the needy one.. a great way to build confidence and trust in their own decision making
2024-09-02 19:08:10
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Jinxed :
I needed this! My team works independently and I need them to take ownership of their work. So this is really good advice.
2024-09-02 20:24:07
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Zee :
The ‘what now’ sent me😂😂😂
2024-09-03 12:32:05
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aron :
I worked as an apprentice for 5 months, I’m a very confident person natuarally and I would say I do have very good initiative. But when a manager makes you feel like everything you do isn’t good (1)
2024-09-05 00:20:49
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Claire | Work people tips :
Have you ever been on either side of this situation? Share your experiences in the comments 👀
2024-09-02 18:08:05
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user3447683844310 :
I have found I ask to make sure I’m doing right job but then when I do use my initiative my manager would explode and say I should have gone through her.
2024-09-03 07:25:10
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Rin! 💀 :
i worked as a graphic design intern for 6 months, and my direct SV was super passive aggressive - my confidence took a spiral for a long time and my work quality did NOT improve at all...
2024-10-04 11:29:17
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maliant_effort :
Well if i do it on my own i get nitpicked and corrected on every single thing…
2024-09-06 08:46:23
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kammymcnamara :
I think the response is dependent on whether this is happening for the umpteenth time as the first part suggests.
2024-09-06 06:58:04
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Wendy Youngblood :
I really learn a lot from your videos. Thank you so much! I’ve only been in a leadership role for a little over a year and this helps me feel confident and it helps me lead others correctly!
2024-09-03 01:26:39
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Nonaaaaame🔱 :
I’m so glad you mentioned about how managers can help people avoid being needy.
2024-09-03 08:59:31
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Ellieb7 :
What happens if your manager is the needy one? How do I deal with that?
2024-09-03 02:26:54
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AlexTea32 :
what if my direct report shows initiative but in a counter productive way that makes more work for me?
2024-09-03 06:11:37
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Neil :
Really good video, you don’t always see it this way when your under pressure yourself so this is really good advice
2024-09-02 19:53:32
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Daniel Grant :
I have this right now. A team member with learned or fake incompetence. It’s almost enfuriating and seems like he just doesn’t want to work.
2024-10-30 04:29:30
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Ciara Gittins 🇬🇧 :
thank you for getting her to say "I'm not sure" more realistic than someone responding with the perfect build able answer
2024-11-30 21:40:12
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s :
I have a needy one in my team lmao 😂😂😂 love him the most but it can get annoying
2024-09-02 19:29:04
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