Relationships With Aly
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LalaJ :
another reason to stay single forever, it is exhausting to have to remember the correct way to ask a question so he doesn't have a temper tantrum
2024-10-26 18:41:33
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ityidiyco :
Ha, no. Thats how we therapize or mother, not for relationships
2024-10-26 06:23:43
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TheOriginalJMWatson🇺🇸💙 :
There is is a difference between “did you remember to pick up tp?” And “did you pick up tp?” The first can come across more accusatory.
2024-10-26 16:08:00
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Horsegirl Energy :
Actually if you don’t put something on this list say “I totally forgot to put it on the list but did you grab tp by chance?”
2024-11-14 10:57:35
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StitchcraftCosplays :
I sometimes do “should I do x, or did you do it already?” Not usually with my partner, usually with coworkers.
2024-10-26 00:45:09
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esweazy143 :
This is a good idea for people that have had trauma in the past.... And they also need to work on not feeling personally attacked all the time
2024-10-26 14:31:50
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kim :
this is accessibility, because you KNOW that defensiveness was learned. PTSD makes some of us hair-trigger snappy, so we appreciate the reminder that we're not being judged or evaluated.
2024-11-13 11:46:54
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James :
Lots of people don't want to admit that their partner is defensive because they've been highly critical of them in the past. Always look in the mirror first
2024-10-26 15:07:17
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Simpson :
This isn’t about the toilet paper is it?
2024-10-28 15:05:40
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3indaair :
Yeah no im not gentle parenting a grown as man
2024-11-14 22:20:53
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Kelly's Notes ✒️ :
it's helpful for ppl like me who have a hard time knowing if we are in trouble or not. I also like hand off conversations. like, here's everything that's left to do or going on.
2024-10-26 17:08:33
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Carlos Charris :
Counter argument: the person asking the question should lead with an admission of forgetting to write something down, which was the pre-existing condition for the other person to do that thing.
2024-11-15 14:39:02
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Kerri 🇨🇦 :
why didn't he write it on the list?
2024-12-30 02:04:49
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Fat Like Snorlax :
“I wasn’t mad” did YOU remember to do x. Not hey, I forgot something, did you happen to grab it
2024-11-15 15:01:36
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user2459296300689 :
I see what you are getting at, but I think no wrong answer is a parent/teacher statement, not partner.
2024-11-13 21:41:15
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Fireside :
Its the tone with accusation in it, and then then gaslighting of im not mad that does it for me, how would remember something that I didn’t know to remember
2024-12-27 15:50:27
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iamakorndawg :
These comments are not it... The point is to make sure you aren't using questions as a springboard into criticism. Whether or not he should have remembered TP on his own is immaterial to the top.
2024-10-26 15:13:19
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user2956637333463 :
I’m not going to preface everything I say with a qualifier to disarm.
2024-10-26 22:06:17
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Marzipan Pig :
This doesn't work on emotionally intelligent people because they get understandably irritated that you're "handling" them
2024-11-13 03:15:42
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Momo :
but women are the sensitive ones? 😂
2024-11-13 16:45:09
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Mikki Luther :
Shouldn’t the person who feels attacked over everything be the one to change and reframe their thinking? It’s not the partner’s responsibility to tip toe every time they ask a question
2024-10-26 17:22:47
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Moscow :
No I’m not gonna treat my partner like a five-year-old. I should be able to ask a question without getting anger in response
2024-10-25 22:55:41
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Pumpkinpuff :
The bar is literally in the ground. Bare minimum your partner should be able to be self aware enough to answer this question without anger. Having to reframe it so your partner doesn’t flip is nuts
2024-10-26 14:25:54
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Random_broom_handle :
Or like, he could pay fucking attention
2024-10-26 05:38:36
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