@abistumvoll1: Nervous system energy is contagious. Ever walk into a room, feel the conversation drop, and just know something's off? Suddenly, you feel tense, maybe even wondering if they were talking about you—all without a single word being exchanged. Our bodies are always broadcasting signals of safety or threat, and our nervous systems pick up on these cues automatically. I used to think that if I just did everything "right," I could avoid conflict, make everyone feel safe, and avoid any miscommunications. But the more I learn about how our nervous systems work beyond our conscious control, the more I see that's impossible.  If I'm tired, distracted, hungry, defensive, or self-protective, you're going to feel it, whether I mean for you to or not. Accepting this has helped me let go of shame and communicate more openly, creating real safety with others. The more I can accept that my energy impacts people around me—intended or not—the easier it is to take responsibility for my presence and how it affects those I care about. Justin and I recently recorded this episode where we each made a list—separately—of the ways we accidentally created issues in our relationship because we were dysregulated. When we got married 16 years ago, we didn't even know what "dysregulation" meant, and honestly, it wreaked havoc on us.  This episode dives into both of us owning up to the ways we affected each other. It's equal parts hilarious, honest, raw, and healing—honestly, one of my all-time favorite episodes. For us, learning to soothe our nervous systems changed everything in our relationship. Episode 305 on The Connected Life If you're ready to go on that journey too, check out Reclaiming You. JustinandAbi.com/ReclaimingYou #marriage #dating #relationship #love #nervoussystem #regulation

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