@drjulie: 👉 No? Then I have an important message for you. Take this as a signal that here lies a huge opportunity for learning something that could transform the way you experience and approach life. The bad news is that if your internal narrative sounds more like a bully than a friend, it will be having negative consequences on your wellbeing. But the good news is that you have more power to change it than you think. All of it was learned. And as an adult you get to update your learning with conscious effort. Every choice that you make about how to act either reinforces your beliefs and predictions about yourself and the world, or it changes them. So, if you are to shift the way you relate to yourself and how you experience life, you must do that with your actions as well as the thoughts you focus on. Start by asking yourself the questions below: • If I was to treat myself as I treat the people I care about, what would that look like in terms of my actions and behaviour? • What would it sound like in the way I interpreted my own failings and shortcomings? • How would it show up in my interactions with other people? See if you can paint a detailed image of the concrete behaviour changes that would be necessary for this change to take place and be sustained. Let me know how you get on. 👉 For more on this you can pre-order my new book - Open When… (link in bio) or check out my million copy bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages!

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Sunday 10 November 2024 16:51:23 GMT