Why Does a Narcissist Keep Their Ex Around? 💔 If you’ve ever wondered why a narcissist refuses to let go, here are 5 reasons that shed light on their motives: 1️⃣ Control – They thrive on control, whether it’s over you or the things you care about (like your kids, your choices, or your peace of mind). 2️⃣ Pain – Even when they caused the breakup, they often feel justified in punishing you further. It’s their twisted way of shifting blame and avoiding accountability. 3️⃣ Attention – Narcissists are empty shells, and attention is their lifeline. If they can still get it from you, it fuels their need to feel significant—even at your expense. 4️⃣ Entertainment – Narcissists love drama because drama = conflict = entertainment. Stirring up chaos gives them a thrill, no matter the cost to others. 5️⃣ Romantic Intentions – Beware the “hoovering” stage. They’ll try to rope you back in, playing on nostalgia and your vulnerabilities to rekindle what they destroyed. 🎭 It’s never about love or genuine care; it’s about feeding their ego. So how do you break free from their spiral? ✨ 1. Reflect – What patterns keep you tied to the trauma bond? Journaling or working with a coach can help you uncover them. ✨ 2. Build Agency – Learn to recognize triggers and set firm boundaries. Your “no” is sacred and non-negotiable. ✨ 3. Create Purpose – Focus on your goals, dreams, and the life you want to build. Empower your decisions by staying anchored in your vision. 💡 Pro Tip: Motivation fueled by love for yourself or those you cherish is far more powerful than hatred for the narcissist. Reclaim your power by choosing healing over resentment. You deserve peace, freedom, and a life filled with authentic love. 🕊️ 💬 What’s helped you break free from a toxic relationship? Let’s share and support each other in the comments. Comment “Heal” for 10 free narcissist recovery strategies. #NarcissisticAbuse #HealthyRelationships #BreakTheCycle #SelfLoveJourney #EmotionalHealing - @brianpaulcomstock