@kp_counseling108: Why do we have the same arguments over and over in relationships? Because at the root of every conflict isn’t just your partner’s actions—it’s your view of yourself. We don’t just argue about what’s happening in the moment. We argue through the lens of our deepest fears and insecurities. That lens can distort even the most innocent situations: ❌ They’re late? It’s not about traffic—it’s about you feeling like you’re not a priority. ❌ They forgot to text back? It’s not about being busy—it’s about you fearing abandonment. Our past wounds shape how we interpret our partner’s actions. These narratives are often subconscious, but they fuel our arguments, turning what could be a simple conversation into a battle for validation. Here’s where it gets tricky: When we project those fears onto our partner—accusing them of not caring, not loving us, or planning to leave us—it can push them to the brink. Over time, they may disengage, and suddenly, your fears feel validated. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. 💡 Here’s the truth: Your partner can’t rewrite your inner narrative. Only you can do that. By becoming aware of your triggers and challenging the stories you tell yourself, you take the first step toward breaking the cycle. This work isn’t easy, but it’s transformative. Imagine what could change in your relationship if you could pause during conflict and ask: What story am I telling myself right now? Is it rooted in this moment, or my past pain? If you’re ready to break free from these patterns, join me this January for my live virtual cohort. We’ll dive into uncovering your biases, rewriting your narrative, and building a foundation for healthier, more connected relationships. ✨ DM me to join the waitlist—limited spots available. #couplescounseling

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Friday 22 November 2024 19:04:53 GMT