@keylimelanna: documentation of my journey of unlearning external validation & internalized male gaze. huge thing for me to learn tbh #peoplepleaser #autisticcreator #neurodivergent #fyp #validation #malegaze #trauma #traumahealing #traumatok #actuallyautistic
i feel so much more TRUE and CONNECTED to my real self when i step into this perspective as well. people pleasing forces my brain to be in anxious mode, rather than my intentional self serving mode
2024-12-16 17:30:45
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hwarora 🏵️ :
i love being able to be in others presence with a comfortable silence tho
2024-12-16 22:24:52
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VINCENT VAN HEAUX :
I started doing this and people don't talk to me as often anymore lol
2024-12-17 01:38:53
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iluvmatchaflum420 :
i love shutting up now i just be zoning out
2024-12-17 01:28:20
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rams 🖤 :
I love your face you’re so nice to look at 😭
2024-12-16 17:24:04
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r1cegrain :
yes yes yes & applying this mindset to the workplace has done wonders for me as well
2024-12-17 00:01:47
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gigi 🇵🇸 :
saving this to talk about it in therapy, its literally the way i feel, thank you for talking about it ❤️
2025-01-05 22:44:31
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Kristen 🌞🌿🌎🌻 :
This!! Our value doesn’t change minute to minute just bc we aren’t saying or doing something super interesting
2025-01-22 19:08:22
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greencabinet42 :
Omg!!!!! This was one of my goals for 2024.
2024-12-16 23:27:13
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Sarah :
I’m the same way, still struggle w it
2024-12-19 20:05:57
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Nicholas Filippone :
Thank you
2025-01-03 09:05:05
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grayce 𖦹 ☼ ⋆。˚⋆ฺ :
Oh my godddddd
2024-12-25 22:38:15
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user9261341518100 :
Better. ❤️
2025-03-08 06:52:11
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aileenflowerss :
I really need to work on this 😭 silence gives me anxiety bc I feel like I’m being precieved or something :(
2025-02-02 09:21:26
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Dope_and_diamondz :
This is amazing I try to do this sometimes too
2024-12-16 22:23:18
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mexibitch :
YES i want to practice this!!!
2025-01-15 21:19:55
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drkilowatt2 :
REAL
2024-12-31 10:02:26
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Lanna :
it’s also nice to recognize i do these ppl pleasing behaviors mostly when i just admire ppl & wanna connect w them! but i forget i connect by being ME, not through habitual masked ppl pleasing !!
2024-12-16 17:33:30
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bails :
I need to learn this. I hate silences unless I’m alone. makes me feel uncomfortable and awkward and always felt the need to throw something funny in there to avoid it
2025-06-21 04:42:05
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Nabi :
this is too real 😭💕
2024-12-17 22:11:56
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kayla🤓 :
I need to work on this
2025-01-02 10:16:03
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lottie 💋 :
yeah
2024-12-17 16:55:24
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