Lisa For Real
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girlyp0p :
I’m a millennial with a boomer mom. It’s almost like she can’t process my adulthood. She hasn’t changed her comms style w me since my teen years. Ex: Scolding, demanding respect, barking orders
2024-12-21 07:50:15
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Joni Nordberg :
Also my mom thought she was centering me but was always unconsciously centering herself
2024-12-20 20:46:54
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Erinphotographs :
I feel so estranged from my parents because of this- they don’t want to know me as an adult only the child they could control
2024-12-21 00:35:52
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TeeRace22 :
Their relationship with obligation as a driving factor is spot on.
2024-12-20 18:50:20
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MindyLee1212 :
this is very spot on. gen x here. my boomer mom has actually said she’s mad i won’t just pretend like she had too with her mother.
2024-12-20 22:47:30
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Amanda :
I completely agree with this. It also reminds me of how millennials were fed the lie about working hard and college being the only path to success.
2024-12-20 19:03:42
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Happiest Outside 💙 🆘 🇺🇸 :
This might fit with some boomer parents. But my boomer mom never did put us first. We were bit players in the movie about herself. It’s still all about her. It always was.
2024-12-22 04:57:30
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retired daughter-in-law :
I’ve spent my whole life being told to be more understanding but as their behaviors and mentality remain unchanged (worse if anything), I’ve simply run out of sympathy for my parents generation.
2024-12-21 03:55:36
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Jodi :
Highly agree with this. I broke the cycle with my Mom and my relationship with my daughter is so different. I never want her to feel guilt for living her life and not to be centered around me
2024-12-20 16:22:47
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70l.l.l.l.l.l07 :
“Desperate to have that fantasy reinforced” - so well said!
2024-12-20 19:23:40
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jeng :
I read once there are 2 types of people: those who say "I went through this so you have to, too" or "I went through this so you don't have to."
2024-12-26 16:58:03
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miss warehouse :
They were raised by fathers who had untreated PTSD from war. It had a huge impact on their emotional development.
2024-12-23 01:29:11
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Inlet Lady :
Many in the boomer gen worked at the same job for decades, lived in the same house, & never had to deal with major shifts in life. They conformed & didn’t question/analyze much, which is a big factor
2024-12-21 18:16:00
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genxadulting | Podcast :
A lot of GenXers created the childhood they wanted and became the parent they needed for GenZ. They’ve made it their goal to break the cycle ❤️
2025-01-03 15:22:47
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poopska :
i heard this mom talking to a younger mom and saying how boys are so much easier and how the girls don't care about them but the boys they will always be there the boys love them.OH HOW WRONG YOU ARE
2025-01-02 04:10:50
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bbbzlbbbzl :
This is 10000% on point. I’m semi-estranged from most of my family & this is IT. They are furious at me. And I can feel their grief & severe depression & grief from miles away.
2024-12-27 01:23:47
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OG4B2020 :
I don’t think it’s a weird take. I think it’s actually brilliant. Thank you for sharing. 🥰
2024-12-20 18:50:06
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Lion :
Now I understand why my boomer mom cannot be happy for my joy-filled life that is in opposition to her “hard work” and financial scarcity belief system.
2025-01-03 14:27:57
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Shaniqua Dupree :
so you're giving out free therapy sessions huh 😅. This was really good. "Refusing to process grief"
2024-12-20 22:59:14
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sheli4817 :
Spot on, "The grief that comes from being conned is very, very painful." Thank you for putting words to something I have felt for so long
2024-12-20 22:37:19
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Off the 1 Train :
This exactly puts words into the current situation/relationship with my father. His lack of control over his small sphere has turned him into a raging toddler.And tho I get it, it doesn’t make it easy
2024-12-20 16:53:16
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Brittany Williams :
The grief that comes with being conned!!!! Perfect description of my mother's post-divorce rage after being married to my dad for 20+ years.
2024-12-23 03:12:18
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Snowcolo :
My dad served his mom and his wife and now expects me to serve him the same way, and on his terms. Meanwhile I’m still raising my young adults, rebuilding my career, and trying to maintain a marriage.
2024-12-20 17:20:05
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harkandharequiltco :
My MIL feels we all owe her to do whatever she wants because of obligation. And she’s fine with it being out of obligation!
2024-12-21 19:57:07
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yourfavewriterlisa :
It’s like when you give too much to a partner who never lives up to their promise. You hold onto the fantasy over reality and the disconnect makes you angry
2024-12-22 16:56:43
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