@goodmorgantherapy: Link in bio to come to the free relationship masterclass! If you are dealing with somebody who is stuck in victim mentality, the greatest gift you can give them is being their villain, and they will force you to give them that gift no matter what you do. Because victim mindset people, people who are addicted to being the victim, who are always the victim in every story that they tell, they only pull in two types of people into their life: villains and heroes. And they turn the heroes into villains as soon as they need to be the victim in the story again. So no matter how hard you have been trying at being thoughtful and kind and explaining where you're coming from and how it wasn't your intention and you were being a good person, it does not matter. If they want to see you as a villain, they will see you as a villain. And the question is not, “How do I get them to see that I'm not trying to hurt them and that I'm not the bad guy?” The question is, “how do I tolerate when they don't like that I'm doing the right thing, even though it's not what they want me to do?” If you want to learn more about this, if you're trying to figure out if that's the kind of relationship dynamic you're in, or if you actually need to work on more tools and be a little kinder, please come to my free relationship masterclass.
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Friday 14 February 2025 00:57:22 GMT
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nikkibaltusis :
Triangulation is so fun! 😬 I have had so many people flip on me and then I realize, “Oh, I’m in the triangle!” Then I kindly see myself out. 😂
2025-02-15 11:28:52
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Pine & Paper :
Oh, so you’ve met my mother? 💀
2025-02-15 09:56:22
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freddie 🇵🇱🏳️🌈 :
run from these people. they will make you doubt everything you are and everything you ever knew about yourself.
2025-02-15 16:31:37
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Aeryale Private :
I live with a Victim addict!!! 😩
2025-08-10 20:02:01
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FunkyMermaid :
Being okay with being their villain is incredibly freeing.
2025-02-16 03:24:22
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MrsDonut :
It’s always about them not taking accountability!! If they’re the victim, they never have to take accountability.
2025-02-15 03:53:18
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Art Bailey Music :
Someone on here said something that stuck with me: "The more healing you get, the more comfortable you become with being the villain in someone else's story"
2025-02-16 12:32:59
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Whitney Craythorn :
unfortunately they drain you mentally and emotionally, reminds me of people that are always in crisis mode, but these people never have a crisis
2025-03-14 12:13:12
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.m.izzy :
Get away from that person
2025-02-15 04:41:03
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no :
The worst part is that he needs to be the victim most after he hurts me. So I’m hurt and yet vilified.
2025-02-14 05:59:55
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drey da bae :
The timing is insane
2025-02-17 03:25:10
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🇨🇦Dominique🇫🇮 :
I’m a fan of blocking and no contact ☺️.
2025-02-16 02:35:55
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snoopdogg :
turning up my volume bc my mom sitting right next to me 🤭
2025-02-16 17:51:18
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D Shy :
Heart breaking to be forced into a role you never played, ideas you never thought, intentions you never had…
2025-10-22 20:30:52
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Waha :
Many a time I have found myself turned into a villain in someone else’s story and I think…I’m okay with it. I’ve been forced to learn how to be okay, for the sake of my own wellbeing.
2025-03-20 06:31:24
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Claire Howie :
This! I was the villain and suffering, now I'm no contact I'm still the villain, but I'm not suffering anymore. I have peace.
2025-02-20 11:19:25
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Amanda🇨🇦 :
you've met my sister?
2025-03-14 22:07:41
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Dnky66 :
I'm in this right now. and I'm so exhausted by constantly trying to convince them I'm not the 'bad guy' actually at the point of "fine I'll be what u say I am "
2025-02-15 16:44:27
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Kat Fox 🆘🇺🇸 :
100% in my villain era! So tired of users and victims
2025-02-18 10:49:40
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Ezra :
Just ignore them
2025-02-15 20:07:26
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Sarah Patchett :
Ask yourself when you feel guilty, if it aligns with your values. If it does the guilt is unjustified.
2025-02-15 05:44:16
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Leigh-anne c :
i walked away silently in the end, i’m done, make me out to be a villain i don’t care any more
2025-02-16 01:02:29
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Zhongo :
I finally gave in, I accepted being his villain and he then agreed to me leaving his life cuz I was "awful". It was the only way to get him out of my life.
2025-06-27 14:14:02
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Starburst 💥🍰 :
I can’t put into words how much I feel this, my dad is like this and once I started talking back at him I became the villain to his narrative and it’s ruined many family gatherings
2025-02-15 19:33:16
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kingdomminded :
worst part is that they will adamantly deny themselves as a victim...uhg
2025-02-15 04:45:49
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