@ashlyepic: Replying to @BougieAmazonFinds I’m not gona speak for all moms because some actually gave good bds . I will speak for myself when I say this , because I had no help I endured certain things i know i wouldn’t if I was 22 & childless , I would’ve been dipped if it wasn’t for the pros of the relationship. He watched me grow up and I watched him grow older into my dream man inside and out. I had youth on my side because I had time to watch him flourish into a better man so I don’t recommend for 30+ woman ( yall don’t have time to date potential) nor do I recommend for 18+ with no kids . Because I was a single mom with no help I felt I had to settle to an extent but I do also understand my situation is unique and 9/10 it won’t end like the fairytale I have now .